I cannot tell you how many forums I’ve been in where moms were asking if they should take time for themselves. If should is a question, then the answer would be, HELL YES!

I don’t know where the idea came from that me time should be a guilt ridden choice but I wish it would go back into the dark hole from where it came. There is nothing wrong with taking GUILT FREE time out from life to do something that is solely for you. Yes, we are parents, and we will be until we close our eyes for good but that doesn’t mean that we have to spend every waking second with our children. Where in the rule book (if there were to be one) does it say that? It wouldn’t and it doesn’t. Ditching the kids for a few hours or a weekend to be alone or with your partner should never be taboo or done with a heavy heart and mind. Time alone does wonders for you and those around you. See how with these four reasons:


Ask yourself, what makes me feel good? Personally, I feel good when I’m able to read a few chapters of book I just purchased, when I can have an entire mug of tea to myself or when I can travel alone. I make it a priority to do something everyday that is only for me, so at the end of the night I can say, the day may have been rough but I’m glad I read those couple of pages or got to go to Target or an event tonight. And when I know I can schedule my me time around nap time (because I’m a stay at home mom with my 2nd child) it gives me something to look forward to. Every mom needs that something to look forward to moment in her day that she knows will make her feel good.


And while we’re on the subject of what makes you feel good, let’s talk about that good feeling spills over to your family. You see, whether you’re feeling great or not so great your family feels it too. That’s how you can tell when you’re most in need for me time. When you’re happy things tend to bother you less. The kids could be tearing up the house and just a wee bit louder than usual but you’ll find yourself more patient and lenient with them. But, if you find yourself feeling frustrated and snappy at the simplest thing like a sock on the floor or a plate left on the table then the kids and your partner won’t know how to receive you. There will be worry about if this will set mommy off, creating mounting tension. This is when it’s time to take a step back in order to get yourself back in a better frame of mind. Your family will thank you for it.

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When you don’t make time for you your body will revolt. Don’t believe me? Remember that unexplained headache, the strange body aches or that time where you nodded off sitting straight up. Yeah, those are all tale-tell signs that you need to take better care of yourself. You must give your body the proper rest and nutrients it needs to sustain itself. Eating toddler leftovers is not a complete meal and only getting only 4 hours of sleep is not considered a good night’s rest. If you can make sure that everyone else is taking care of their bodies then you need to follow your own advice and do the same for your own.


Nothing more needs to be said here. You did earn it and no one deserves it more than YOU!

Author: Mommy R+R

Valerie Pierre is the owner and content creator for Mommy R+R. She is a lover of food, wine & cuss words. She resides in Brooklyn, NY with her comic nerd husband and their two kids. Valerie is also Co-Owner of Sisterhued. A digital collective that showcases women of color in positive lights. She also contributes pieces to MomCave TV, Fit Noire and Football, Food & Motherhood.


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  1. Great reminder. We all need it sometimes.

    Posted on February 1, 2016 at 9:57 am
  2. I’m getting better at taking more time for myself. I even began polishing my nails weekly again.

    Great post.

    Posted on February 1, 2016 at 10:50 pm