Health & Wellness


    As we celebrate National Happiness Happens Day I thought we could have some fun with it by listing 12 things that make moms happy.

    Lets finish the sentence: Happiness happens….

    after that first sip of morning coffee.

    when we can eat our food without having to share it.

    on the first day of school.

    when kids take naps/go to bed.

    after that first sip of wine.

    when you find random money in your pocket or purse.

    when that Amazon delivery arrives.

    when the kids clean up after themselves.

    when that payday direct deposit hits.

    when you get great sex!

    when there’s a sale.

    when you discover a new show on Netflix.

    when you can listen to what you in the car.


    when you’re able to be in the bathroom ALONE.

    There are so many way that happiness happens for moms. Share your comments below with all the things that make YOU happy!


    What do you get when you combine top-of-the-line skin care, high-end luxury spa resorts, and a aromatic greens salad?  The Organic Spa Magazine Media Event, that’s what!

    Held at the Mandarin Oriental New York, a premier New York City destination, the Organic Spa Media Event brought together dozens of brands and hundreds of influencers, united by the goal of creating holistic well-being.  This year marked the fourth such gathering, and attracted media attention from all over the northeast, with companies representing the United States, Europe, South and Central America, and China.

    While larger lines like Aura Cacia were there debuting their new product lineups, newer startups like Plume—Hair and Lash science were present as well, revolutionizing the cosmetics industry with a plant-based, all-natural lash boosting serum.  MyChelle boasted a highly effective, yet baby gentle line of sun care that felt more like a moisturizing treatment than a sunscreen.  Between visiting all the companies, attendees were encouraged to partake of a healthy and delicious lunch, with lush green salads, fresh fruit, sandwiches and hibiscus iced tea.

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    The Media Event was a direct embodiment of the mission of Organic Spa Magazine, providing “insight and informed advice on natural beauty and skin care, health and wellness topics, fitness and food, eco fashion and design, green travel and much, much more.”  In addition to being a fantastic opportunity to meet other wellness-minded professionals, try luxurious new products, and scope out the best destinations for a much-needed break, the event was an oasis in and of itself, leaving attendees relaxed, rejuvenated and inspired.

    babydroppingsAllaya Cooks-Campbell is the mother of an adorable newborn and step-mommy to two gorgeous tweens. She works very hard to keep her children from developing her sense of humor. An avid yogi, gamer and novelist, Allaya lives in New York with her husband, Damany. You can find her exploring motherhood at


    Photo Credit: Damany Campbell of Kanji Photography

  • 7 Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You a Happier Mom

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    Motherhood is hard as fuck. Like, seriously hard. There are days we love it, and then there the days we wanna run away. Does that equate to us not loving our children? Nah. We love them to the moon and back, but there are days when our kids’ antics causes us to want to wanna scream bloody murder.

    You know those days, when the hitting, lack of sharing, yelling, and so on that just won’t stop. I know it’s just not my house. It had better not be just my house. But seriously, it’s in these moments when our happiness tank starts to deplete, along with our patience, we think about those kid-free days and how we wish we could go back to that for five minutes. Oh, let me just point out that it’s perfectly okay to admit that you think this way sometimes. We’re human. There’s nothing wrong with reminiscing about the life and freedoms you once had. It’s completely normal.

    Now the question is when we feel less than our usual selves what do we need to do to make sure our happiness meter is set somewhere between “kids are finally sleeping” and “it’s wine time!”?

    Stop trying to be the “perfect” mom

    Let me state this out the gate – there is no such thing as a perfect mom. I don’t care what the media, celebrities or that sanctimonious mom at your kids PTA tries to sell you, don’t buy it. It’s not true. There is no rulebook for parenting. We’re all out here trying to do the best we can for our families with what we have. Which is why I hate the term “perfect” mom because it’s wielded in such a way to make moms feel inadequate and self-conscious. No one should ever feel that way about themselves. That’s why it’s important to remind ourselves as often as possible that we’re fine just the way we are.

    Stop comparing yourself to other moms

    A lot of women will look at other moms who they think have it together, and wish they could be like them. When the truth of the matter is, they don’t have their shit together either. They’re struggling just like the rest of us, but they don’t let you know that. It’s all about perception. But know, that’s all it is. This all reverts back to the need some moms feel like they have to be perfect to be considered a good parent to those on the outside looking in. Just enjoy being you without the pressures of trying to be someone else.

    Ask for help

    If you need your partner to get the kids ready for bath time bed so that you can watch the last few moments of your favorite show, finish a blog post or something that’s for you, ask them. They won’t know you need it unless you do so. And please, don’t judge their methods over yours. Let your partner do it their way. And if you have family and friends in your corner, ask them as well. Now should you have no one to turn to for help, look into a hiring a part-time sitter. Someone whom your kids can hang with every now and then so you can take a breath. No mom should ever feel like she’s alone.

    Slow down

    Ask yourself, is it really necessary for you to have a full schedule for yourself and your family? Do you even like these activities? Is anyone fully committed to them? If you answered yes to one of those last two questions, or both, then why are you doing them? Cut back on things that you have little interest in. This way you can make the time for things you really like and always wanted to do, or maybe to do nothing at all. Running at 100mph every day is no good for anyone, and the effects of it will take a toll on your physical and mental health. Pace yourself before your wear yourself so thin your body slows down for you.

    Get as much rest as you can

    Getting enough sleep is crucial for anyone to survive. You can’t function at the level you need to complete a 15+ hour day when you’re running on 3 or 4 hours of sleep from the night before or worse from several nights in a row. Staying up well after the kids have gone to sleep is tempting because the house is quiet but it can backfire on you if you do it constantly. So how do you get more sleep? Give yourself two hours after the kids have gone to bed then call it a night. And you can also alternate who sleeps in on the weekend. Saturday is my day to sleep in and Sunday belongs to the man. And here’s another tip, if you’re kids are still in the napping stage, when they sleep you should be sleeping too. Why are you up moving around? Get on the couch and chill out. If your kids are out of that stage, like mine, then make them go in their room for “chill out” time. This is the time where everyone retreats to their room for one hour. Sometimes kids will nap (yes!) other times they won’t (boo!) but hey, at least you were able to rest yourself for a bit of time.

    Let it go

    This will be hard for some, but stop getting worked up over shit that’s out of your control. You can’t do anything about it so instead of walking around aggravated about it be like Elsa and let it go. Take a breath and know that things will be okay and continue on with your day. If things aren’t going to be okay, phone a friend to talk about it. Sometimes just talking to a friend and hearing their reassurances are enough to get us through those dark times.

    Have all of the sex

    Everyone knows the longer you go without the sex the angrier you become. So do tha do as often as you can. And if you don’t have anyone to have sex with, have sex with yourself. Now if you and your partner are going through a stale period in your bedroom here are some tips to help you out.

    Do you have any tips that have helped you become a happier mom? Share in the comments below.

    When Beyonce dropped Formation earlier this month, she was literally like

    And since then, I don’t think the Earth’s rotation has been the same.

    Love it or hate it, the song is everywhere and plenty of people are trying to learn the steps.

    Myself included, cause my formation moves around the house just ain’t cutting it.

    Now as you remember from my I can’t dance post, you know this will be an almost impossible feat on my own. But thanks to a Facebook ad for DivaDance Company popping up on my screen, I learned starting the month of March they will be offering weekly Beyonce ‘Formation’ choreography classes that will run for four consecutive weeks.

    I immediately signed-up.

    Created by Jami Stigliano, DivaDance Company is a New York City based dance studio that’s been serving up fun and sexy choreographed dance movies since 2003. Named “Best Dance Class” by AM NY, and coupled with their 5-star Yelp reviews, I knew I they would be the best ones to get me into rhythmic formation.

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    With a motto of LET YOUR HAIR DOWN DivaDance values having fun and celebrating life at any age and ability level! Which is perfect for anyone who is seeking to cut loose their two left feet and have a little fun in a judgement free environment.

    Classes will start on Wednesday, March 2 and be instructed by Tiana Murray, and conclude on Wednesday, March 23.

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    My goal at the end of this four week class is to go from novice to a master dancer. In other words, I want to slay. All day.

    So call your girls, clear your calendars for the next four Wednesday’s and click here so yall can get into formation with me. Tickets are $85 ($21.25 per week, so worth it!) and classes are after work like a hump day happy hour. Don’t drag your heels on this one cause this class will be packed with those who’ve come to prove they’ve got some co-or-din-a-tion.

    And they aren’t only hosting Beyonce choreography, there are classes for Justin Bieber (which is currently wait list only), Britney Spears and many other artists. There are single day classes or classes that run over several weeks, and if  it’s a special celebration like birthday or bachelorette party they also have private parties. For more information and class pricing visit DivaDance Company and I hope to see you there.

    *Please remember all thoughts and opinions are my own and the only compensation I will be receiving are complementary passes for the purpose of this series.

    Cover Photo Credit: Teen Vouge (via YouTube)