Health & Wellness

  • 7 Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You a Happier Mom

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    Motherhood is hard as fuck. Like, seriously hard. There are days we love it, and then there the days we wanna run away. Does that equate to us not loving our children? Nah. We love them to the moon and back, but there are days when our kids’ antics causes us to want to wanna scream bloody murder.

    You know those days, when the hitting, lack of sharing, yelling, and so on that just won’t stop. I know it’s just not my house. It had better not be just my house. But seriously, it’s in these moments when our happiness tank starts to deplete, along with our patience, we think about those kid-free days and how we wish we could go back to that for five minutes. Oh, let me just point out that it’s perfectly okay to admit that you think this way sometimes. We’re human. There’s nothing wrong with reminiscing about the life and freedoms you once had. It’s completely normal.

    Now the question is when we feel less than our usual selves what do we need to do to make sure our happiness meter is set somewhere between “kids are finally sleeping” and “it’s wine time!”?

    Stop trying to be the “perfect” mom

    Let me state this out the gate – there is no such thing as a perfect mom. I don’t care what the media, celebrities or that sanctimonious mom at your kids PTA tries to sell you, don’t buy it. It’s not true. There is no rulebook for parenting. We’re all out here trying to do the best we can for our families with what we have. Which is why I hate the term “perfect” mom because it’s wielded in such a way to make moms feel inadequate and self-conscious. No one should ever feel that way about themselves. That’s why it’s important to remind ourselves as often as possible that we’re fine just the way we are.

    Stop comparing yourself to other moms

    A lot of women will look at other moms who they think have it together, and wish they could be like them. When the truth of the matter is, they don’t have their shit together either. They’re struggling just like the rest of us, but they don’t let you know that. It’s all about perception. But know, that’s all it is. This all reverts back to the need some moms feel like they have to be perfect to be considered a good parent to those on the outside looking in. Just enjoy being you without the pressures of trying to be someone else.

    Ask for help

    If you need your partner to get the kids ready for bath time bed so that you can watch the last few moments of your favorite show, finish a blog post or something that’s for you, ask them. They won’t know you need it unless you do so. And please, don’t judge their methods over yours. Let your partner do it their way. And if you have family and friends in your corner, ask them as well. Now should you have no one to turn to for help, look into a hiring a part-time sitter. Someone whom your kids can hang with every now and then so you can take a breath. No mom should ever feel like she’s alone.

    Slow down

    Ask yourself, is it really necessary for you to have a full schedule for yourself and your family? Do you even like these activities? Is anyone fully committed to them? If you answered yes to one of those last two questions, or both, then why are you doing them? Cut back on things that you have little interest in. This way you can make the time for things you really like and always wanted to do, or maybe to do nothing at all. Running at 100mph every day is no good for anyone, and the effects of it will take a toll on your physical and mental health. Pace yourself before your wear yourself so thin your body slows down for you.

    Get as much rest as you can

    Getting enough sleep is crucial for anyone to survive. You can’t function at the level you need to complete a 15+ hour day when you’re running on 3 or 4 hours of sleep from the night before or worse from several nights in a row. Staying up well after the kids have gone to sleep is tempting because the house is quiet but it can backfire on you if you do it constantly. So how do you get more sleep? Give yourself two hours after the kids have gone to bed then call it a night. And you can also alternate who sleeps in on the weekend. Saturday is my day to sleep in and Sunday belongs to the man. And here’s another tip, if you’re kids are still in the napping stage, when they sleep you should be sleeping too. Why are you up moving around? Get on the couch and chill out. If your kids are out of that stage, like mine, then make them go in their room for “chill out” time. This is the time where everyone retreats to their room for one hour. Sometimes kids will nap (yes!) other times they won’t (boo!) but hey, at least you were able to rest yourself for a bit of time.

    Let it go

    This will be hard for some, but stop getting worked up over shit that’s out of your control. You can’t do anything about it so instead of walking around aggravated about it be like Elsa and let it go. Take a breath and know that things will be okay and continue on with your day. If things aren’t going to be okay, phone a friend to talk about it. Sometimes just talking to a friend and hearing their reassurances are enough to get us through those dark times.

    Have all of the sex

    Everyone knows the longer you go without the sex the angrier you become. So do tha do as often as you can. And if you don’t have anyone to have sex with, have sex with yourself. Now if you and your partner are going through a stale period in your bedroom here are some tips to help you out.

    Do you have any tips that have helped you become a happier mom? Share in the comments below.
  • GET INTO FORMATION AT DIVADANCE COMPANY (A WEEKLY FOUR PART SERIES)

    When Beyonce dropped Formation earlier this month, she was literally like

    And since then, I don’t think the Earth’s rotation has been the same.

    Love it or hate it, the song is everywhere and plenty of people are trying to learn the steps.

    Myself included, cause my formation moves around the house just ain’t cutting it.

    Now as you remember from my I can’t dance post, you know this will be an almost impossible feat on my own. But thanks to a Facebook ad for DivaDance Company popping up on my screen, I learned starting the month of March they will be offering weekly Beyonce ‘Formation’ choreography classes that will run for four consecutive weeks.

    I immediately signed-up.

    Created by Jami Stigliano, DivaDance Company is a New York City based dance studio that’s been serving up fun and sexy choreographed dance movies since 2003. Named “Best Dance Class” by AM NY, and coupled with their 5-star Yelp reviews, I knew I they would be the best ones to get me into rhythmic formation.

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    Photo Credit: DivaDance

    With a motto of LET YOUR HAIR DOWN DivaDance values having fun and celebrating life at any age and ability level! Which is perfect for anyone who is seeking to cut loose their two left feet and have a little fun in a judgement free environment.

    Classes will start on Wednesday, March 2 and be instructed by Tiana Murray, and conclude on Wednesday, March 23.

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    Photo Credit: DivaDance

    My goal at the end of this four week class is to go from novice to a master dancer. In other words, I want to slay. All day.

    So call your girls, clear your calendars for the next four Wednesday’s and click here so yall can get into formation with me. Tickets are $85 ($21.25 per week, so worth it!) and classes are after work like a hump day happy hour. Don’t drag your heels on this one cause this class will be packed with those who’ve come to prove they’ve got some co-or-din-a-tion.

    And they aren’t only hosting Beyonce choreography, there are classes for Justin Bieber (which is currently wait list only), Britney Spears and many other artists. There are single day classes or classes that run over several weeks, and if  it’s a special celebration like birthday or bachelorette party they also have private parties. For more information and class pricing visit DivaDance Company and I hope to see you there.

    *Please remember all thoughts and opinions are my own and the only compensation I will be receiving are complementary passes for the purpose of this series.

    Cover Photo Credit: Teen Vouge (via YouTube)

  • Tips to Ditching the Flu so You Can Feel Better Sooner Rather Than Later

    For what seemed like the entire fall season I had the misfortune of being plagued with the worst cold that I’ve ever had. Officially ranked worse than the cold that overtook me in the summer of 97 when it was 100+ degrees outside and inside my body. At the time I thought, it’ll be utterly impossible to ever feel this horrible again.

    How wrong I was.

    My initial contact with this monster of a cold happened when my first born started school. Within her first week she was already sick as a dog, and as much as me and my husband tried to keep it from spreading it was no use. It slowly over several weeks took over my son, husband, then me – of course, I got hit the hardest and was sick the longest. Not only was I not expecting it to be so bad, but I was also unprepared for it as well.

    I’m not one to visit the doctor. I’m more of a ‘ride it out’ kind of gal. I figure why get a prescription when there are plenty of things that I can do to help me get better:

    Get as much rest as you can

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    I know that its hard to wallow in bed all day when there are tasks to be done, but when you’re sick sometimes you’re left with no options. Your body craves the covers and you must answer. If there is no one whom you could call upon to stay with you, then you should make use of a sitter service and have one come over so that you can give your body the rest it needs to fight off the war going on inside of you.

    Drink lots of hot liquids

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    Hot liquids from ranging from herbal teas, hot water with lemon and honey, and broths are your friends. Hot liquids will soothe your throat and body from the soreness.  But if that isn’t enough, and it usually isn’t, try Theraflu. I swear by this stuff. Not only will it soothe your throat and body, but it will also ward off your uncontrollable coughing spells, relieves congested sinuses, headaches and reduces fever.

    Take your meds

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    I love Sudafed. It is my go-to when I’m congested or suffer from other head cold issues. It works quick and doesn’t put me down for the count like Benadryl. But whatever medication you choose, make you take it as directed and do not skip a dose because you’re starting to feel a little better. Don’t take the chance that your body is playing tricks on you and you end up relapsing due to a missed dosage.

    Soak in hot water

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    If you’re not gonna drink hot liquids(which you totally should be) then you need to submerge your body in it.  The heat from the water will cause steam, and the steam opens your sinuses and ease body aches. Why do you think when you’re in the shower you can breathe and feel great but within an hour of coming out, you feel like crap again? Because we can’t spend the entire day in the bath, although we all wish we could, you can use a humidifier to help you breathe easier.

    Ingest plenty of citrus

    foodiesfeed.com_orangesLemon and oranges are the best things for a cold. I went most of the month without either cause I kept thinking, any day now I’m gonna feel better. When in actuality I was only making myself feel worse. But from the moment I took my first swig of orange juice that I noticed a change in my body and how I felt. I felt my throat start to return to normal, my sinuses eased up some and I gained a burst of much-needed energy.

    Eat plenty of soup

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    When you’re sick the last thing you feel like doing is eating. Your throat is raw, your taste buds are shot and your stomach has an out of order sign on it. But just because you feel that way doesn’t mean that its right to go on without eating. Soup, like hot beverages, has many uses, of which provides the nourishment your body needs to fight off the cold.

    What tips and tricks do you have to help get over the common cold or the flu?
  • Ways You Can Train Your Brain

    Today is #NationalTrainYourBrain day! I’ve put together a number of ways that you can start exercising your brain in order to get the most out of it. You see, the brain is like a muscle and it needs to be worked out in order to be kept strong. If you’re worried that you haven’t been training your brain, chances are you have been, you just didn’t realize it. 

    PICK UP A BOOK
    train your brainRead a book on a subject you like or if you really want to get your brain into overdrive, readabout a topic that you know little about and dive in. Your brain will soak up the new information making it stronger with all the new information it possesses.

    PLAY AN ONLINE GAME
    train your brainThere are a few sites that help you train your brain but Lumosity does it best. With personalized games and quizzes you’ll find the more you play the stronger your brain will become.

    PLAY A BOARD GAME
    train your brainNothing will get your brain burning with rapid activity than a good old fashioned board game. Scrabble is notorious for its ability to improve word recognition and spelling.

    PLAY A VIDEO GAME
    train your brainHear me out on this one – playing video games are great for expanding the mind as the player gains increased split thinking capabilities, strategy and multi-tasking skills.

    GET ENOUGH REST
    train your brainLack of sleep causes the brain to not function. Not getting enough rest can also lead to forgetfulness, and can also lead to stress and depression.

    EAT RIGHT
    train your braincombinations of foods — canenhance memory, build new brain cells and even help ward off Alzheimer’s.

    WORK OUT YOUR BODY
    train your brainHitting the gym will allow help your brain by increasing your heart rate, which pumps more oxygen to the brain. It’ll also release hormones that aid and provide a nourishing environment for the growth of brain cells.