Health & Wellness

  • 7 Tips To Help You Stick to Your New Year’s Resolutions

    Every year, millions of people start the year with New Year’s resolutions that are intended to make their life a little better. Many people, plan to work out more, save money, and overall just get our shit together for the new year. As usual, folks get off to a great start but after a few weeks, the desire to continue to stick to your new year’s resolutions begins to fade. Listen, I don’t keep most of my resolutions past March, so there’s that. And as a result, lots of folks (myself included) lose confidence or become depressed for not accomplishing their New Year’s resolutions but it doesn’t have to end that way.

    To prevent that from happening here are seven tips to help you stick to your New Year’s resolutions:

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    Set Realistic Goals

    Having high expectations for yourself is good, provided you don’t go overboard. This is what many people are guilty of, myself included. We tell ourselves we’re gonna do a, b, c, x, y, and z, and ultimately end up not accomplishing shit. Why? Cause we set our own selves up for failure by aiming too high for impossible goals. However, realistic goals are achievable. Instead of setting a goal to read 100 books in a year, start by setting a goal to read a couple of minutes each day. No matter how busy you are, this is something that you can do if you are passionate about improving your knowledge or reading more books in general.

    Starting small doesn’t mean you lack as a person. It’s actually a smart decision to figure out how much you can handle based on your dreams and your routine life. In fact, small accomplishments will help you find happiness and also motivate you to continue to work towards the next step of the resolutions.

    Use The Buddy System

    Having someone or a group of people to hold you accountable will encourage you to keep your resolution going all year long. No matter your resolution have someone in your corner who you can count on to cheer your milestones (big and small) and also call out if you start falling off track. Remember, this is a two-way street in which you’re pushing each other to win. Now if you come to a situation over time when your buddy isn’t being positive and happy for the strides you’ve made then it might be time to seek out someone who is. No one wants or needs a Debbie Downer or worse a hater in their corner.  

    Set Reminders

    We have a lot of things going on at once and trying to remember everything is damn near impossible. Thankfully, technology makes it easier to get daily reminders of the things we need to do. Now you won’t forget to follow through with your goals. And don’t be afraid to set follow-up reminders especially if you know you’re the type to say, eh I’ll do that in the next 10 minutes. By the way, it’s me, I’m the type to say that, and you are too – set that extra reminder.

    Keep Track of Your Progress

    It really is motivating to see all the progress you’ve made so far, even if it’s only been a few weeks. It’s going to encourage you to continue on your path until you reach your goal. Remind yourself of all your hard work by posting your progress where you can see it. On your bathroom mirror, the fridge, in your journal, or on your phone. Every time you look at it it’s going to show you where you started and how far you’ve come since you began. It’s the ultimate motivational booster.

    Focus On The Positives

    Are you going to have setbacks on your way to achieving your goals? Yeah, everyone does. No one sets a goal and then poof in a blink of an eye they’ve achieved it. Nah. That shit takes blood, sweat, and tears which includes setbacks. But don’t focus on that. Learn from it yes, but don’t let it deter you from getting to the finish line. Focus on where you are and how much hard work it took for you to get there not the 2 steps back from a month ago. Let the positive lead you to where you wanna be.

    Keep Trying Don’t Give Up

    Okay, so you set a goal, and guess what? You’re starting to slack off, things aren’t going exactly as planned, or worse you failed. That’s fine, cause that’s life. But the thing you have to remember is don’t stop trying. If you got lazy shake that shit off. Get your mind and body back in the game. If a door closes in the front go around the back to see if that door is open. Also, if you have to scrap and redo your plan in order for it to work better, do it. Do you fail? Alright. Be like Aaliyah and dust that shit off and try again. Do what you gotta do (legally) to reach your end goal.

    And most importantly…

    Don’t Doubt Yourself

    Never for a second doubt that you can’t do it, cause you can, and you WILL. I believe in YOU.

  • Fall Back Time Change: Surviving The End of Daylight Savings

    Well, it’s official summer is over. I mean summer has technically been over, but nothing really confirms this dreaded realization than the end of daylight savings time. Instead of having warm daylight well beyond 7 pm, now it’s going to be pitch black and cold before dinner is on the table.

    So what can we do to keep feeling like our pre-fall back self?

    Go To Bed Early Saturday Night

    Even though the clock turning back will give you an extra hour, that does not mean that your body will be able to do the same. Your internal clock is still set to the previous time. So while it may only be 2 am (again) your body still thinks it’s 3 am. Don’t kid yourself. You’re exhausted. Go to bed.

    *Reminder – Don’t forget to set your manual clocks back before you go to bed. You don’t want to wake up confused about what time it really is.

    Wake Up At A Decent Time On Sunday Morning

    Just because the clock turned back an hour that doesn’t mean that you should lay in the bed all day. While I am a staunch supporter of doing nothing as much as you possibly can I have to implore you not to do that today. It will throw your body off more than it already is, and the result will leave you feeling sluggish when it’s time to get back to the grind on Monday.

    Eat & Drink

    The new time change will throw off your eating habits so you need to make sure you’re eating and staying hydrated throughout the day so you don’t feel even more rundown than you already do. So be sure to have a hearty healthy meal like oatmeal, fish, and veggies with a bottle of water or unsweetened tea.

    Get Some Sun

    Now that you’re up and ate a decent meal it’s time to grab some sun. You won’t have that much of it now that the time has changed so you have to take advantage of it before the cold weather sets in. You don’t have to travel far, either. Sit on your porch, visit a local coffee house, run some errands, or go for a walk around the neighborhood.

    Go To  Bed Early Sunday Night

    As previously mentioned, going to bed early is in your favor until you become used to the time change. If you want to stay up late Saturday into Sunday fine (although I wouldn’t), but don’t risk doing the same the night before the start of a new workweek. Don’t risk nodding off at your desk because your body feels like it was robbed of an hour.

    Come To The Understanding That Your Body Will Adjust (Until We Spring Forward)

    It is true, you will eventually get used to it. And by the time we’ve accepted our new cold and dark hours, it will be spring and time to push the clock forward.  Yeah, you’ll lose an hour but at least it will be warmer and sunnier out. That is the only consolation prize I can offer you right now.

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  • 15 Ways to Help You Clear the Negative Energy from Your Home

    Just like the people around us, places too, carry their own energy. Our homes should be a space filled with positive and abundant energy, and one way to make sure it does is to take active steps to clear the negative or stagnant energies away.

    Negative energy was a contributing factor to my depression and while I’m for the time being trapped in my current space it’s imperative that I take measures to ensure the space around me keeps my vibes on the up and up.

    So how do you know if your home has negative energy? For me, I know it’s time to clear the energy when I start to feel overly exhausted, can’t think straight, have headaches, I’m snapping at others or just don’t overall feel well. You know that strange feeling that doesn’t sit right and you can’t pinpoint the why or the cause – that’s negative energy.

    Now the most important question, how do you clear the negative energy from your home? There are a number of ways to do this and depending on your mood you can do one or a combination of many, it’s truly up to you.

    Open Your Windows

    Clear the Negative Energy from your Home

    Opening your doors and windows will allow the fresh air to flow into the rooms of your house. Stale air not only traps negative energy inside it can also make your home feel stuffy and suffocating. Regardless of the season I always have my windows open. You’d be amazed at how quickly your mood will change from sluggish to energized by simply allowing a breeze to blow into your home.

    Clear The Clutter

    There’s a different kind of energy that comes with decluttering your home. A good decluttering will leave you feeling refreshed, accomplished, and positive. Clearing the clutter and letting go of things that you don’t use can remove all those emotional and mental blocks, and invite more opportunities your way.

    Get a House Plant

    There are some plants that have the power to attract positive energy. However, before you head out and buy any ole plant you should know there are some plants that attract negative energy. Take, for instance, cactus. Due to their thorns, it’s best to avoid this plant if you’re trying to bring positive energy into your home. Here is a list of plants that bring positivity as well as other forms of abundance.

    Burn Candle Or Incense

    Clear the Negative Energy from your Home

    I am a candle lover so this is an easy one for me. Burning a candle or incense can restore the balance in your surroundings, which can be exceptionally helpful especially after you’ve arrived home after a rough day out or have had negative encounters taking place in your home. In ancient times, incense was burned to not only change a room’s fragrance and religious practices but to also ward off evil spirits.

    Smudge Your House

    Clear the Negative Energy from your Home

    This is a Native American tradition in which you burn herbs as a means to clear the negative energy from your home. How do you smudge your space? You hold the stick over a fireproof bowl which will collect the ash that falls as you smudge. You don’t want those small ambers hitting the floor and possibly causing a fire. With your smudging stick in hand move and lit move your arm in a clockwise motion starting from the entry point. You will continue this motion throughout the entire room while making sure to focus on the corners where negative energy can be stagnant. You can smudge your home once a week, once a month, or every six months the choice is up to you, smudge when you feel it’s time.

    Repair and Remove Items

    Raise your hand if your guilty of holding on to things that are broken and you swear you’re going to fix it but you know you never will? Yeah, me too. Hoarding broken or damaged items and keeping them in your home invites negative energies, and clutter. If something gets chipped or broken fix it right then and there if you can and if you can’t ask yourself if it’s something you really need to keep. If not, let it go. As for your other things, be sure to look after them and clean them regularly as dust can prevent the circulation of positive energies.

    Rearrange Your Furniture

    Rearranging every so often is a perfect way to breathe new life into your home. Your new furniture placement should give you positive vibes and renewed happiness. If your space is small or shaped in such a way that you can’t move certain things around go for smaller things like chairs or other decor items.

    Salt Power

    Clear the Negative Energy from your Home

    Salt is believed to be a powerful agent specifically when it comes to cleansing your home. If you find yourself stuck with negative thoughts and emotions, consider soaking in a salt bath for some time. Another great idea is to sprinkle sea salt over all 4 corners of your space and let it sit for 48 hours before sweeping it up. You can also put the salt in water, let it sit, and using your fingers or small brush rub it on various surfaces in your home. The salt will help absorb any negative energies in your room and cleanses it in ways you can’t see.

    Bathroom Matters

    Your bathroom also plays an important role in determining the quality of energies in your home, after all this is where you’re taking your salt baths. So when not in use, make sure the toilet lid is always shut and the bathroom is always clean and fresh.

    Use Essential Oils

    When I feel out of sorts the first thing I do is turn on my diffuser, add a few drops of lavender essential oils, and in no time I feel more calm and relaxed. It’s this feeling why so many rely on a variety of these oils to lift their spirits and put them in a better mood. I’m  Here is a list of essential oils that will remove negative energy. I’m also a huge fan of Saje’s Goddess natural perfume with gemstone rollerball. I keep it handy and when I’m feeling overwhelmed I apply it to my pressure points to help me relax.

    Place Crystals Around Your Home

    Clear the Negative Energy from your Home

    For many, crystals are used for spiritual and healing purposes when worn, held or placed in strategic places throughout their homes. It is believed that crystals connect with our auras and depending on which one(s) you have they will help ward off bad energy, act as a stress reliever, and improve our overall health. Here is a list of stones that will keep negative energy away.

    Do Yoga and/or Meditate

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    Nothing gets your mind, body, and spirit in a better mood than by doing a little yoga and meditation. Negative energy loves it when you’re lazy so by doing some yoga you’ll get your blood circulating and your body will feel re-energized. But if you want to remain in a stationary position, you can meditate. During meditation, you are setting clear intentions of happiness and to do this you can chant a mantra that will release negative thoughts and vibes from your mind and environment.

    The Power of Sound

    A super effective way to break the stagnant and bad energies in your home is sound. I’ve got three ways that you can use sound to clear the negative energy from your home.

    Sound Bowls

    Himalayan or Tibetan singing bowls create a relaxing and stress-free environment. You can include it in your meditation and yoga sessions or as a stand-alone as you walk through your home. How do you use a sound bowl? Take the small mallet and press is against the rim of the bowl in a circular motion until you hear a solid clear tone. You can also tap the outside of the bowl before and/or after the circular motion to signify the start or conclusion of your session.

    Ring a Bell

    Another way to break the stagnant and bad energies in your home is to ring a bell three times in each corner. Doing this can almost instantly revive the space, and also help attract more abundant energies.

    Put On Some Music

    You’ll become more cheerful with a renewed sense of energy you didn’t know you had when you put on music. I have a number of playlists on Spotify with all different kinds of music from pop to old school, but whatever your taste or mood music is the remedy to rid yourself of negative energy.

    Decorate Your Home In Positivity

    When decorating your home add objects that will invoke happiness. My little corner home office is an explosion of happiness and calm for me. I have images and phrases that put me at ease when I sit at my desk. This is what you have to do for your home. Add as little or as much as you would like until it feels just right and switch them out often to keep the vibe fresh.

    Hang A Mirror

    Mirrors do more than give a room depth they also reflect light making the area brighter which will combat negative energy. For mirrors to be effective make sure they’re framed and not cracked as sharp edges are considered negative energy. Also, be sure to keep them clean allowing as to allow as much light as possible to be reflected.

    I hope these tips are helpful to you. In addition, I’ve compiled some items that will help you clear the negative energy from your home.

    1. Art of the Root Purification 8oz Soy Herbal Candle for Negativity
    2. Aura and Reiki Crystal Protection Mist (smudge alternative)
    3. MAMA WUNDERBAR Smudge Kit
    4. Levoit Kana Pink Himalayan Crystal Salt Rock Lamp
    5. Beverly Oaks Charged Black Tourmaline Crystal Complete Kit
    6. Protection Spells
    7. Tibetan Meditation Yoga Singing Bowl Set
    8. Rose Gold Modern Circle Mirror

    What are some of the ways that you clear the negative energy from your home?
  • Women+Patterns+Plants Is Your New Favorite Self-Care Coloring Book

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    I was in my local bookstore not too long ago just browsing, as I usually do. No title or author in mind. Just me in the store walking slowly letting my eyes scan around for covers to jump out at me. This is how I shop for books sometimes. Nothing special grabbed me from the stacks so I wandered over to the planner section, the last section I always visit before I exit the store – and I saw it.

    I could only see a small corner of it. It was the color of a beautiful sunset. I knew this was a newly added item cause I know that section like the back of my hand. Let me tell you when I pulled this book out from it’s hiding spot, my gawd. I was standing still but I stumbled. I was holding Women + Patterns + Plants a self-care coloring book by Sarina Mantle (@wildsuga).

     

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    This was the most gorgeous coloring book I’ve ever laid eyes on. I couldn’t believe this beautifully illustrated Black woman was staring back at me. I thought to myself, “this is too good to be true”. Books can be funny, you know. The cover can be one thing and the insides another. This was not one of those times. As I flipped through the pages I could tell this was a self-care coloring book made FOR US by us.

    About Women + Patterns + Plants self-care coloring book

    This book is simple, it’s a self-care coloring book made up of women, patterns, and plants. Sarina wants you to immerse yourself in divine feminine energy and wonderful natural imagery, as a way to rekindle your creativity as you work your way through empowering images. There are also question prompts and statements that allow for self-reflection as you color.

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    I’m telling y’all right now I didn’t color that. Only in my dreams would I be able to perfectly execute something like this. But I’ma try tho. I first gotta get me some high falutin color pencils cause these Crayola’s my kids got ain’t gonna cut it.

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    Believe me when I tell you I’ve never purchased anything so quickly. And you should too, cause quantities are limited. So get off social media (after you’ve read this post and bought the book) and take a few moments for yourself to color in some happy little plants.

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    Do you enjoy adult coloring? What do you think of Women + Pattterns + Plants? Is this a self-care coloring book you would consider buying for yourself or a friend?