Self-Care

  • The ‘Whole Human Mama’ Planner’ Subscription Is Just What Mom Needs

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    The Whole Human Mama Planner is perfect for moms no matter the occasion. Created by Graeme Seabrook, the Whole Human Mama Planner is a subscription to help moms stay connected. The purpose of this planner is to help you thrive not only as a mom but as a person.

    Because it’s a planner subscription you’ll receive a new planner every four months. This means you’ll be working with a thinner planner that spans 3 months. But just because it’s thin that doesn’t mean it’s not giving moms what we need to get through the month.

    Here’s what you can expect with the Whole Human Mama Planner:

    A monthly priorities page that features a section for important dates, goals, project lists, and self-care.

    A full monthly and weekly spread with a space section and enough area to add notes.

    Weekly to-do list page for yourself, the family, and for your home.

    A full-page spread to express your thoughts and feelings.

    Weekly meal planner and habit tracker.

    A project planner to jot down any new work projects or home DIYs that may come to mind.

    A weekly wrap-up that gives you sections to celebrate your wins, things you’re letting go of, and to write a letter to yourself about your week.

    Additionally, you’ll receive a small lined notebook that can be used for diary entries, notes, or whatever your heart desires plus a small pin, bookmark, stickers, digital goodies, and lastly one free month membership to The Mom Center. The Mom Center is a community that helps, supports, and uplifts women as we guide ourselves through the journey of motherhood.

    I like this planner because it’s undated so if you miss a month you can easily go back the next month without a gap, it easily fits in your purse, and it’s motivational. The start of each month gives you a new quote to inspire you.

    The cost of the subscription is $100.00. You can order a subscription for yourself, your mom, or a mom friend here.

  • All I Want for Mother’s Day Is Some Peace and Quiet

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    I’m gonna be frank with you, all I want for Mother’s Day some good old-fashioned peace and quiet. That’s it. I don’t want to do anything that involves me putting on a bra because I’ll tell you right now I’m not in the mood for it. I know Mother’s Day is a few days away but I can assure you I’m already dreading the thought.

    And I know I’m not alone in this. Yeah, sure there are moms who want to go out and celebrate the day with their families, and that’s great – but I’m not one of them. My ideal Mother’s Day would be to spent bed with the covers to my neck, with hot tea, a roasted chicken sandwich, and the remote. I might binge-watch a new show (which there are several on my list) or I might watch Downton Abbey for the umpteenth time. Or maybe if I do decide to go out I want to go out alone. I want to roam the bookstore or maybe walk the bridge if the weather is nice enough. The point is, I just want to be left alone in solitude.

    Why do I want to be alone?

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    This past year has been a mess. Like families all over the world, we spent an entire year indoors. We did everything inside. Not getting a break from one another. It’s made us stir crazy, especially me.  Sure there are moments when the kids would do into their room but I still have to yell downstairs to them someone “knock it off”. Or go nuts listening to whatever AmongUs music Sierra has on loop. I haven’t quite figured out if she’s trying to annoy us all or if she just likes it – I think it’s both. This Mother’s Day, I don’t wanna deal with any of it for at least most of the day. I want to hear the low hum of the fridge, the cat’s claws tapping the floor as she walks around, my own thoughts – in other words, silence.

    If Jeff Sr. wants to do something for me then he should the children out. I’m always the one doing things with them while he works, and I enjoy those moments. But for one once, he should plan something just for them. I honestly cannot remember the last time the three of them did something without me. If I had to guess I would say it was before the pandemic. I had something to do and he took them to the park and to grab a bite. He needs to do that that not only more often but starting this weekend. Now don’t get me wrong, Jeff is no slouch. He was at one point working two full-time jobs. All he did was work and sleep in order to provide for us. So he had his reasons. But, as a stay-at-home mother for the past year, I’ve had no time off as he has continued to work. So to have the entire house to myself for a few hours would be paradise.

    Doing what I want to do on Mother’s Day

    If Mother’s Day is supposed to be a day we celebrate moms and a day when we should actually rest, then why should be I dragged up and down the street? Please by all means leave me at home. Now I’m sure there are some who think I’m crazy for not taking advantage of my husband’s open wallet, but the truth of the matter is, I can do that any day of the week. So if this one day a year is supposed to be for me then I want to spend it in a way that I want to. Save the overpriced meal and flowers for another day. Give mommy something she’s been dreaming about all year – quiet time.

  • Learning How To Do Less When You’re Used to Doing More

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    Some of the most successful people in the world will tell you time management is one of the most crucial aspects of getting it right and making it big. But it isn’t always easy, especially when you have a lot on your plate.

    And sometimes, even if you feel you’re ticking things off your to-do list like crazy and being super productive, it can actually be a big mistake, and you might even end up having a serious burnout. So how exactly do you go about learning how to do less in a hustle society that thinks you should be doing more?

    You Have To Delegate

    Trying to do every little thing yourself is literally one of the biggest mistakes you could make. Learn to utilize the talents of others and delegate your tasks. This isn’t a sign of weakness, but in fact, it frees up your time and allows you to focus on what’s more important for you and your growth.

    Learn How To Say No, And Mean It

    If you’re aiming to do less, and still accomplish more, one of the key things you need to focus on is learning to say no. More often than not, we burden ourselves with way too many tasks than we can handle and find ourselves jumping from task to task. Find the strength to let go of certain things you can’t do, particularly tasks that yield little or no result.

    Set Your Priorities

    Learning to prioritize is one of the most important lessons you need to learn if you’re aiming for success. Have a system and strategy in place that allows you to decide and focus more on things that are of high value and have a major impact on your goals. When you prioritize, you’re ultimately chalking out a plan that influences you to put your effort and energies in the right places for the right amount of time.

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    Put Your Strengths To Work

    In an attempt to do and accomplish too much, we scatter our energies. Stop doing that and you’ll realize that you’re now able to focus more on and play by your strengths, which will help you yield results faster than ever before.

    Ditch The Productivity Mindset

    Instagram and most other social media channels are flooded with so-called inspirational and motivational quotes, asking you to take charge and attack the day, and while they’re all great, you have to realize that being productive and busy just for the sake of it doesn’t necessarily reflect success.

    Drop the idea that you have to be busy and working all the time. Even when you’re supposedly doing nothing and just taking a nap, you’re actually just recharging yourself and getting the energy to do the rest of your tasks in a better way.

  • New Year’s Self-Care Checklist {FREE Printable}

    This year is FINALLY coming to a close. With everything that happened, it felt like it’s been 2020 for 10 years. 2020 was supposed to be the year we lived our best lives. It was going to be the roaring ’20s 2.0. Instead, it was the year of Murphy’s Law, and everything that could go wrong did go wrong. Despite there being some positives, the year overall was mentally, emotionally, and physically draining.

    No one wants to go into the new year feeling frazzled. That’s why this self-care checklist is crucial to getting you (and me) back on the path of remembering to do the little things. Contrary to popular belief, self-care doesn’t have to cost a bundle. At its bare bones self-care is really about taking time out to do things that keep our lives flowing smoothly. This can look like a few moments of reflective meditation, making sure all your health appointments are scheduled, taking time out to phone a loved one.

    This checklist features 15 simple everyday activities that are meant to bring peace and calm to your body and environment. The best thing about this is (other than it being free) you two designs to choose from to print, or you can save the PDF on your device and digitally check off things there. The key is ensuring this list is going to be someplace where you will see it every day.

    There is no right or wrong way to use this self-care checklist. You can simply tick off a few at your leisure and come back to the others later, you can break them up over the course of January, or you can challenge yourself to complete one new thing for 15 consecutive days. The choice is truly yours.

    On this list you’ll find the following:

    Setting goals for the new year
    Starting a new book or journal
    Scheduling work and health appointments
    Cleaning up your computer files (Shameless Maya has a great video on this)
    Meditation, working out, and eating right
    Creating morning and evening routines
    Turning off social media
    Calling a friend
    Filling your home with your favorite scent

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    Also, if you haven’t done so already download my 12-month undated wellness calendar. It’s a FREE printable featuring Black women in the wellness space.