Self-Care

  • Simple Morning Self-Care Routine Ideas To Help Get Your Day Started

    For most of my life, I’ve never been a morning person. As a mom, that’s changed. Getting up before the sun is all a part of parenthood. Despite the mental pains of rising early, I discovered some positives to it. I realized after school drop-off I fell into specific habits which ultimately became my morning self-care routine.

    This routine consisted of taking a slow walk around the neighborhood before heading back home, showering, having breakfast with a cup of tea, listening to meditative sounds, and putting on my diffuser to signify the start of my day.

    The thing about a morning self-care routine is that it doesn’t have to take all morning. It’s whatever you want it to be for however long you want it to last. It’s about ensuring you’ll be starting the day feeling at peace with yourself. Without my morning self-care routine, my day would seem incomplete.

     Morning Self-Care Routine Ideas To Get Your Day Started

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    Make breakfast / Hydrate

    You cannot start the day without breakfast. Make a little something to eat that will give you a morning energy boost that will last the morning. Don’t forget to remain hydrated throughout the day.

    Make bed / Tidy space

    When your space is tidy your mind and spirit will be clear as well. So make your bed, sweep the floors, fluff the pillows, remove dust from your furniture, and crack the window to let a little fresh air in. You’ll be shocked to discover that you won’t be tired but instead full of energy – enough to tackle the day.

    Exercise / Yoga

    Get your body moving with 20 to 30 minutes of exercise or yoga. Working out stimulates your body and gets you feeling in a better mood, boosts energy, and improves your body’s overall health.

    Meditate / Pray

    Meditation can help you clear your mind of stressors and organizes jumbled thoughts and ideas. It also allows you to really tap into your deepest thoughts and feelings.  You can meditate anywhere in your home or even outside. Choose a spot either on the floor sitting or laying the floor, whichever is comfortable, set a timer, play music or not, take note of your body and breath, let your mind wander letting thoughts come and go with ease. Praying works the same exact way instead you can read religious verses to gain wisdom and to connect further with the higher power above. Meditate and pray for as long as necessary.

    Spend time outdoors

    Going outside, especially in nature, has a number of benefits from improving your overall emotional mood, lowering stress, and helps you find inspiration. You can connect with yourself and the outdoor world around you by going on neighborhood walks, sitting in the park, going on a hike, and even sitting under a tree in the park. The possibilities for outdoor fun are endless.

    Play music that makes you feel good

    Aside from working out, music that makes you feel good is another way to get the body going. Dance around letting the music take hold of you. Use those happy vibes to release anything that’s pent up inside you.

    Take an indulgent shower or bath

    Showering is an ultimate act of privacy. Bathing is more than just washing away the dirt and sweat. It’s really about connecting with yourself and being fully present in the moment. Showers can alter our whole mood for the day. We start out feeling sluggish and unwilling to do anything but after showering we’re given an instant pick me up and are ready to face the day.

    Read / Journal / Update planner

    Read books that will feed your soul. Whatever topic or genre you feel compelled to read, dive into that. If you choose not to read then you can journal your thoughts and feelings. Oh, and don’t forget to keep your planner up to date for the day, week, and month so no appointments are forgotten.

    Unplug from social / Turn off ringer

    Unplugging from social and/or keeping your ringer off is a way to guarantee that your morning routine will not be disturbed. Social media timelines can be overwhelming at times and that’s not the first thing you want to look at in the morning.

    Set goals for the day

    Have things to do for the day? Now is your time to map them out so you can clearly see how your time will be spent for the day.

    Recite positive affirmations

    Reciting positive phrases to yourself in the mirror may sound silly but I assure you it’s not. Telling yourself these positive messages will empower you, help your focus on your goals, and most importantly, removes negative self-doubt from your mind.

    Spend time on a hobby or new activity

    Working on a hobby or discovering a new one is always fun. Work on a puzzle, learn to knit, or take up photography – the possibilities are endless on how you want to spend your time.

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  • The ‘Whole Human Mama’ Planner’ Subscription Is Just What Mom Needs

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    The Whole Human Mama Planner is perfect for moms no matter the occasion. Created by Graeme Seabrook, the Whole Human Mama Planner is a subscription to help moms stay connected. The purpose of this planner is to help you thrive not only as a mom but as a person.

    Because it’s a planner subscription you’ll receive a new planner every four months. This means you’ll be working with a thinner planner that spans 3 months. But just because it’s thin that doesn’t mean it’s not giving moms what we need to get through the month.

    Here’s what you can expect with the Whole Human Mama Planner:

    A monthly priorities page that features a section for important dates, goals, project lists, and self-care.

    A full monthly and weekly spread with a space section and enough area to add notes.

    Weekly to-do list page for yourself, the family, and for your home.

    A full-page spread to express your thoughts and feelings.

    Weekly meal planner and habit tracker.

    A project planner to jot down any new work projects or home DIYs that may come to mind.

    A weekly wrap-up that gives you sections to celebrate your wins, things you’re letting go of, and to write a letter to yourself about your week.

    Additionally, you’ll receive a small lined notebook that can be used for diary entries, notes, or whatever your heart desires plus a small pin, bookmark, stickers, digital goodies, and lastly one free month membership to The Mom Center. The Mom Center is a community that helps, supports, and uplifts women as we guide ourselves through the journey of motherhood.

    I like this planner because it’s undated so if you miss a month you can easily go back the next month without a gap, it easily fits in your purse, and it’s motivational. The start of each month gives you a new quote to inspire you.

    The cost of the subscription is $100.00. You can order a subscription for yourself, your mom, or a mom friend here.

  • All I Want for Mother’s Day Is Some Peace and Quiet

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    I’m gonna be frank with you, all I want for Mother’s Day some good old-fashioned peace and quiet. That’s it. I don’t want to do anything that involves me putting on a bra because I’ll tell you right now I’m not in the mood for it. I know Mother’s Day is a few days away but I can assure you I’m already dreading the thought.

    And I know I’m not alone in this. Yeah, sure there are moms who want to go out and celebrate the day with their families, and that’s great – but I’m not one of them. My ideal Mother’s Day would be to spent bed with the covers to my neck, with hot tea, a roasted chicken sandwich, and the remote. I might binge-watch a new show (which there are several on my list) or I might watch Downton Abbey for the umpteenth time. Or maybe if I do decide to go out I want to go out alone. I want to roam the bookstore or maybe walk the bridge if the weather is nice enough. The point is, I just want to be left alone in solitude.

    Why do I want to be alone?

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    This past year has been a mess. Like families all over the world, we spent an entire year indoors. We did everything inside. Not getting a break from one another. It’s made us stir crazy, especially me.  Sure there are moments when the kids would do into their room but I still have to yell downstairs to them someone “knock it off”. Or go nuts listening to whatever AmongUs music Sierra has on loop. I haven’t quite figured out if she’s trying to annoy us all or if she just likes it – I think it’s both. This Mother’s Day, I don’t wanna deal with any of it for at least most of the day. I want to hear the low hum of the fridge, the cat’s claws tapping the floor as she walks around, my own thoughts – in other words, silence.

    If Jeff Sr. wants to do something for me then he should the children out. I’m always the one doing things with them while he works, and I enjoy those moments. But for one once, he should plan something just for them. I honestly cannot remember the last time the three of them did something without me. If I had to guess I would say it was before the pandemic. I had something to do and he took them to the park and to grab a bite. He needs to do that that not only more often but starting this weekend. Now don’t get me wrong, Jeff is no slouch. He was at one point working two full-time jobs. All he did was work and sleep in order to provide for us. So he had his reasons. But, as a stay-at-home mother for the past year, I’ve had no time off as he has continued to work. So to have the entire house to myself for a few hours would be paradise.

    Doing what I want to do on Mother’s Day

    If Mother’s Day is supposed to be a day we celebrate moms and a day when we should actually rest, then why should be I dragged up and down the street? Please by all means leave me at home. Now I’m sure there are some who think I’m crazy for not taking advantage of my husband’s open wallet, but the truth of the matter is, I can do that any day of the week. So if this one day a year is supposed to be for me then I want to spend it in a way that I want to. Save the overpriced meal and flowers for another day. Give mommy something she’s been dreaming about all year – quiet time.

  • Learning How To Do Less When You’re Used to Doing More

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    Some of the most successful people in the world will tell you time management is one of the most crucial aspects of getting it right and making it big. But it isn’t always easy, especially when you have a lot on your plate.

    And sometimes, even if you feel you’re ticking things off your to-do list like crazy and being super productive, it can actually be a big mistake, and you might even end up having a serious burnout. So how exactly do you go about learning how to do less in a hustle society that thinks you should be doing more?

    You Have To Delegate

    Trying to do every little thing yourself is literally one of the biggest mistakes you could make. Learn to utilize the talents of others and delegate your tasks. This isn’t a sign of weakness, but in fact, it frees up your time and allows you to focus on what’s more important for you and your growth.

    Learn How To Say No, And Mean It

    If you’re aiming to do less, and still accomplish more, one of the key things you need to focus on is learning to say no. More often than not, we burden ourselves with way too many tasks than we can handle and find ourselves jumping from task to task. Find the strength to let go of certain things you can’t do, particularly tasks that yield little or no result.

    Set Your Priorities

    Learning to prioritize is one of the most important lessons you need to learn if you’re aiming for success. Have a system and strategy in place that allows you to decide and focus more on things that are of high value and have a major impact on your goals. When you prioritize, you’re ultimately chalking out a plan that influences you to put your effort and energies in the right places for the right amount of time.

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    Put Your Strengths To Work

    In an attempt to do and accomplish too much, we scatter our energies. Stop doing that and you’ll realize that you’re now able to focus more on and play by your strengths, which will help you yield results faster than ever before.

    Ditch The Productivity Mindset

    Instagram and most other social media channels are flooded with so-called inspirational and motivational quotes, asking you to take charge and attack the day, and while they’re all great, you have to realize that being productive and busy just for the sake of it doesn’t necessarily reflect success.

    Drop the idea that you have to be busy and working all the time. Even when you’re supposedly doing nothing and just taking a nap, you’re actually just recharging yourself and getting the energy to do the rest of your tasks in a better way.