I don’t usually talk about this topic outside of those closest to me, and I definitely have never spoken about it on this site. I just didn’t think there would ever be a reason to mention it, until now.

    Things are gonna get heavy but stick with me.

    For as long as I can remember I have always been intrigued by the afterlife. The question of what happens to us after we die is a question I think many people have. It’s a natural curiosity. I morbidly think about the deaths of my loved ones. I don’t know why, I just do. And it’s not in the sense of that I want them to die, no. I mean cause if I had it my way we’d never age and walk this earth forever. I think more about how I would feel. The pain. The loneliness. I know death is inevitable, but it’s the how and when that keeps me (hell, all of us) on pins and needles. And since I don’t know, I can only from time to time wonder.

    But I don’t know how I would feel if someone told me my husband’s time was almost up? This is a double edged sword because I want to know, but I know in reality I couldn’t handle it, and beg the memory to be erased. However, this DID happen to a woman, on a very random day in her kitchen more than 10 years ago. There she was washing dishes when a powerful voice boomed into her head and told her that her husband would die soon. She didn’t know how to process this information. Where did it come from? Who said it? What did it mean?

    So she did what anyone else would do and pushed it out of her mind. But in less than 3 months she would find herself laying inside her flipped over car, in snowy ditch on the side of the road next to her deceased husband. The real life woman this happened to is named Irene Weinberg, and this is her story.

    Irene is the author of They Serve Bagels In Heaven: One Couple’s Story of Love, Eternity, and the Cosmic Importance of Everyday Life. This amazing memoir talks about the messages Irene received before, during and after the accident which contained a Directive from Heaven, opening her to a profound spiritual awakening that took her on a healing journey from devastating loss to a renewed sense of inner strength, spiritual wisdom and passion for life.

    Irene Weinberg

    Bagels in Heaven made me laugh, it made me cry, and it also let me know that just because our loved ones may not physically be here for us to touch and talk to, they are still around us, showering us with love and guiding us on our path in life. This book touched me in so many ways, especially with my Grandmother’s one year anniversary approaching in April. It helped me understand that she is still very much with me, I just have to open my mind to signs that she sends me.

    What kind of signs you ask? Well, how about the time I was sitting at a red light thinking about her and out of nowhere her favorite song More Than Words came on. This made me think of her standing in the window of her high rise apartment looking at the New York City skyline sipping a hot cup of tea. Then out of no where my 4 year old breaks my thought to ask if she can have some tea when we get home. Talk about a clear and direct message. All in a split second waiting at a stoplight my grandmother wanted me to know she was there. These are the signs Irene wants us to pay attention to because they bring us solace and comfort.

    Irene’s book also spoke about soul mates. The love Irene and her late husband Saul have for one another spans more than just the one lifetime, which is why I speak of it in the present tense. And thanks to a now famous celebrity medium (who I will not mention because I want you to be surprised when you read it), Irene became aware of those past lives, some of them are happy and others are more tragic than the loss that she suffered this life. But what I loved the most was reading how they come together in each of them. I can only describe their love as the type of love that’s desired by most, but sadly only experienced by few. And it got me thinking, I wonder how many lives me and Jeff have lived together before this one? I mean, how else does a Haitian guy from Brooklyn end up meeting a Haitian girl from Jersey City? I always felt it had more to do with a pre-determined fate rather than some random fluke.

    They Serve Bagels In Heaven is a great read that will take you no time to finish because once you start you’ll want to keep going.


    A few weeks after I finished Irene’s book I found out that she would be hosting an intimate event in New York City to not only talk about her book but also give tips to help me tap into my spiritual awakening.

    See how things come together. Don’t you just love when that happens?!

    During her two hour event she taught me four keys things to help me live life full of happiness and positivity.

    1 – Lovingly detach from those around her who did not exude positive energy and light

    2 – Follow my intuition and only walk through doors that feel right

    3 – Understand that the only things we can control in this life is ourselves.


    Irene Weinberg
    Photo Credit: Irene Weinberg

    And lastly, (this is the biggie) she talked about how holding grudges and the inability to forgive (cause this is so me), stunts our own spirit from growing. It took me back to the popular saying, I’m forgiving you for ME. It makes sense when you really think about it.

    Irene Weinberg

    All in all, I learned so much from Irene in this little bit of time we had together. Regardless of your spiritual background there are so many life lessons that can be applied to everyone’s life. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has a loved one nearing a transition or if that person has already crossed over, or if you’re interested in the spiritual realm and past life romances. You can get a copy of They Serve Bagels In Heaven on Amazon.


    Out the gate let me state that I love reality television! Not all of it, but enough of it to pretty much follow a schedule of what I need to be watching on a nightly basis. So when I got the invite for a special sneak preview of the 32nd season of Survivor I knew I was gonna be in the house. I love this show! I haven’t been watching from the beginning, but I’ve been watching for the last 8 seasons. And let me tell you, this isn’t any regular ole’reality show. No. This is the only reality-competition show that matters on television. Period. End of story.

    Now if you aren’t even slightly familiar with Survivor then you’ve truly been living under a rock. And if you’ve never watched, well I feel sorry for you.

    To give you a quick background of the show, Survivor drops 18 contestants off on a tropical remote island for 39 days to see if they have what it takes, to quite literally, survive. This is a game of strength, determination, strategy and endurance. For this season they will bring back the “Brains vs. Brawn vs. Beauty” theme and it will take place on the island Kaoh Rong in Cambodia.

    Here is the cast for this season:

    Photo Credit: CBS


    Photo Credit: CBS

    (Click to learn more about each cast member)

    At the event we got a chance to watch the first episode and have a Live streamed Q&A with the show’s Emmy Award winning host Jeff Probst, as well as Former Survivor Winner Parvati Shallow Former Player and Fan Favorite Stephen Fishbach.What an amazing event this was.

    First off, let’s talk about that first episode. Were you not on the edge of your seat before the halfway mark? From Tai digging up trees in search of the idol, to Jennifer with the bug in her ear – which gave me flashbacks of when that fly flew in my ear as a child, and the ending – which I will not spoil for some of you who have yet to see it. It was a total roller coaster ride of emotions. I have a feeling this gonna be the best season yet!

    After the viewing Jeff, Parvati and Stephen answered so many questions from whether Jeff would participate as a contestant, if there would be a winter version, and how much does Jeff really know before they meet at camp for elimination. Watch the live stream below.

    (The segment went so long they had to wrap. But we kept on talking. Too much fun to end.)

    Afterward we all got pictures and a bag of books (if I couldn’t be any more in love with these people) and an official Survivor scarf.

    Photo Credit: CBS
    Photo Credit: Denise from BoyzRuleOurWorld


    How awesome is all this stuff!!

    I am so hyped about this new season. Are you? What did you think of the premiere? Would you ever sign up for this show?


    Sisterhued is a digital collective comprised of myself, Shaniqua Garvin of Brown Media Mama, Danielle Wilson of Dellah’s Jubilation and Tiffani Greenaway of My MommyVents. The purpose of the this collective is to bring together brands and bloggers of color, as well as showcase women of color in a positive and uplifting light.

    We recently held our launch event at the Lecture Loft in New York City to introduce Sisterhued, its founders, mission and our goals for the future.

    At our sold out event I spoke about why Sisterhued is dedicated to negating the negative images and stereotypes that surround of women of color by showcasing sisterhood within our community, and reinforcing that women from the lightest to the darkest hue are beautiful, smart and important.




    Thank you so much to everyone who came out from far and wide to show their support. Stay turned to more Sisterhued events slated for 2016.

    Thank you to our sponsors Dove, Boiron, Nubain Heritage, Dickinson’s and Newport Skinny Tea for providing all of our gift bag items.  I’d also to thank Essence magazine for contributing magazines that were also included in the event gift bags.


    Read more about this digital collective, its founders and this event on the Sisterhued website.


    Let’s talk about jeans shall we. They are the bane of many women’s existence. Why? Because we’re always on the hunt for the “perfect pair”. That can be hard to do that when you keep finding pairs that smash your butt, look like ugly mom jeans from 1980 something or are so tight in certain areas that it makes it hard to walk. These are just some of the reasons why women skip the jean section and head straight for the the yoga pants.

    Its a sad fact that jean shopping just really isn’t considered fun. It can be hard work. Searching store after store, design after design only to find nothing fits you like it should. And who wants to deal with that when shopping is supposed to be considered fun and relaxing. I know I don’t.

    So when I received an invitation to attend a special event for the release of Heavenly Touch Denim Riders by Lee. I thought, yay jeans! But I also thought, these jeans will probably end up not fitting right either and I’ll end up trying to find someone who would be able to wear them. This is how deep jean depression is ingrained. I wasn’t at the event yet and I was already dreading the fitting room.

    This is why women get so excited when they find a pair they love because they’ve already told themselves prior that this pair will be like all the rest, and when they aren’t we can’t contain ourselves. You see us posing in the mirror from all angles cause we just can’t believe what we’re seeing.

    Now back to the event – it took place at 230 Fifth, a rooftop bar in New York City. There was delicious bites (that shrimp tho), delicious cocktails, and and of course jeans! And tops too!


    And for an added treat noted fashion illustrator Jennifer Lilya was sketching those in attendance.



    The view of The Empire State Building and New York City as a whole from 230 Fifth is quite amazing, though you can’t really tell from the fog.

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    When I arrived at the event we were greeted and given our personally selected jeans to try on. It must be said I’ve never owned a pair of Lee jeans. Ever. Now I have heard of them. I mean who hasn’t? They’ve been around since 1889! Let that date sink in your mind. This is company who obviously knows a lot about jeans. But would that long standing rep be able to win me over?

    So I take my jeans and head to the fitting room. I can feel the anxiety building up in my stomach. I opened them up and inspected them. The first thing I noticed about them was how soft they were. They didn’t feel like jeans at all. They were soft and stretchy. They didn’t have that hard jean feel to them. You know the kind that doesn’t really give when you put them on. These were quite the opposite. I suddenly didn’t have a pit of worry anymore.

    As I slid into them it felt like

    I could swear these jeans were lined with cotton balls. I instantly felt cozy. And when I went to button them there was no need to hold myself in. They closed with no issue and I was happy to see the button wasn’t up to my neck. I hate jeans that are not high waisted, yet button covers your bellybutton. I don’t know about you, but I like my belly button to breathe and these Lee’s let mine do just that. In addition to their comfort and button placement, I love how stylish they are. There is nothing ‘mom jeans’ about these Heavenly Denims. They are truly for the woman who wants to look chic and put together whether she’s running errands or having a night on the town.

    I instantly fell in love with these jeans and decided right then and there that I’d be keeping them on for the rest of the evening. And I wasn’t alone in that thought as everyone kept their Lee’s and shirts on.

    lee jeans

    But I took it step further and wore mine again the very next day. How could I not? I knew I would be traveling all over the city with the kids on the train and they would be what I needed to survive all day.

    These Riders by Lee Heavenly Denims are my new favorite jeans, with more than one style available I plan to get them all.

    Photo Credit: Rider by Lee