• I Quit Nail-Biting After 30 Years, and with These Easy Tips You’ll Stop Too!

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    So you’re a nail-biter. Yeah, me too. I’ve been biting my nails for as long as I can remember. Despite my social butterfly exterior, on the interior, I’m quite the nervous nellie. How I became this way I do not know, but what I do know is, I cope with this nervousness by nail-biting.

    I was bad when it came to this. I would bite, pick and peel them. When I drew blood I vowed to stop but it wouldn’t last long. I was embarrassed by my hands, always hiding them. But it took one chance event that would change my nail-biting urge forever….ok, for the last 30 plus days.

    How did I overcome my urge for nail-biting, and how can these tips help you?

    I got a mani

    This is how it started. I found myself in a pickle last month as I needed to get some professional photos taken of me for business purposes. The photographer told me, “Val get your nails done because your nails now are not gonna cut it.” So I took my ass to a neighborhood spot over on Myrtle Ave in Brooklyn and got a mani.

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    While I wasn’t feeling my mani at all that didn’t stop something from triggering in me to decide from that moment on I would STOP biting my nails.

    Listen, I’ve been making this same pledge for about 30 years and I only managed it once for my wedding in 2008. Sadly my newly grown nails wouldn’t see my honeymoon as I clipped them off before the end of the night.

    So why the sudden change now? For one, I overall liked the way my hands looked. I had grown woman hands and it completed the look of my hand with my wedding ring. Secondly, after two weeks with the silk wraps, I was able to overcome the feeling that comes along with having nails. It’s a weightiness and the ability to feel the nail on the tips of my fingers. It’s this feeling (along with that nervous inner voice) which causes me to peel and clip my nails. But because I had spent money to get my nails done I was less inclined to pick at them, although I did Google ‘how to remove silk wraps’.

    But I stayed the course and kept them for a full two weeks, and removed them as I saw it was time to let them go. Now the true test would begin. Besides mani’s, what other ways could I keep my nail-biting tick at bay?

    Paint my nails

    The first thing I did after removing the tips was file my nails and paint them. I used Sally Hansen Diamond Strength Hardner (cause that’s all I had), and they looked good. But something was missing. So I decided to shop for some nail color. It’s fall so I chose Revlon Colorstay Gel Envy in two shades: Blackjack and Queen of Hearts and after a couple of applications, my nails looked fantastic! It’s amazing how much growth one can get over 14 days.

    With my nails freshly painted I knew I didn’t wanna do anything to fuck them up. So I became more mindful of the activities I was doing so I wouldn’t chip them. I had the urge to pick at them but how shiny and healthy my hands looked kept me from getting my clippers.

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    Keep my hands busy

    If you’re looking to keep your nails intact then you need to keep your hands busy. I have a fidget spinner that I keep at my desk and when I feel the urge to pick at my nails, which is all the time, I whip out my spinner and give it a whirl. It gives my hands the needed distraction that will deter me from focusing on my nails.

    Keep my nails manageable

    I plan on keeping my nails around this length. The shorter they are the less maintenance I will have. But if they get longer they’ll become a distraction. I’m already finding myself obsess over how my thumbnail clicks against my phone screen. There’s something about that sound that intrigues me. Also, by keeping my nails at a certain length means I can continue to do my own mani’s in between salon visits.

    Remember to take my vitamins

    The day after I got the silk wraps I carried my ass down to Target for some Hair, Nail and Skin vitamins. I got the gummy kind as those are the only ones I will remember to take, cause candy. These 3 little gummy squares a day is giving my body the extra boost of vitamins it needs to keep my hair healthy, my skin clear and my nails super strong.

    Take it one day at a time

    The fact is while your nails grow quickly, it will take time to get them where you want them. So instead of worrying about how much time it will take for your nails can touch your palms when clenching a fist, celebrate not being able to remember when you last clipped and picked with your nails.

    Are you ready to take the challenge?

    So if you’re ready to end your nail-biting urges join me on my 30 Day Nail Biting Challenge. Just because I made it 30 days so far that doesn’t mean I’m completely out of the woods. This simple calendar (which is downloadable) will keep you on track of your progress. Check off each day you keep your nails intact. Celebrate your milestone at the end of the month, and every month after that. If you slip up, it’s okay. Start over as many times as you need till it becomes a way of life.

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    Be sure to stop back to share your progress.
  • Make Time For You: A Daily Self-Care Challenge For 2017

    For the new year I have something really special for you. I will be teaming up with my blogging bestie Allaya Cooks-Campbell from Baby Droppings to bring you the ultimate daily challenge for 2017.

    It’s our Make Time For YOU: Daily Self-Care Challenge.

    This is something that we have been talking about and working on behind the scenes for the past few months. We are huge advocates for not only parental self-care, but the self-care of ALL women. Most of the conversations Allaya and I have together revolve around how women aren’t taking enough time for themselves. Ourselves included.

    So we decided for the new  year we would join forces to hold the other accountable for their me time, while simultaneously making sure you’re getting yours. We knew that participating in a daily challenge of this magnitude would be difficult. I mean, it isn’t called a challenge for nothing.

    How does the make time for you: daily self-care challenge work?

    At the beginning of every month starting January we will share a list of daily activities that you can do alone (or with a friend) based on the theme of that month. For example, January is the start of the new year and new changes, so the activities will revolve around  ‘something new’. It’s all about bringing you out of your shell. There are also days where you can so whatever random thing you want as long as it fits the theme.

    And so we  can keep up with each other post your pictures to Instagram using #TimeForYOU2017 so we can see and comment.

    There will also be a FREE monthly calendar for you to download that will help you track your activities. Print it and post it on your fridge or your vanity as a daily reminder that self-care is necessary to your well being and completely non-negotiable.

    But wait, there’s more! Sign up for the monthly self-care newsletter and you’ll get a sneak peek at upcoming challenges before we publish it, receive words of motivation, and a chance to win prizes. Oh yes, there will be prizes! At the end of every month the self-care subscriber with the most Instagram posts will be randomly chosen to win a secret prize that relates to the theme of the month she won.


    Why should you participate in the daily self-care challenge?

    Ask yourself, when was the last time you did something that was just for you? If it took you too long to remember then its time you start putting yourself  first for a change.  Did you know – 2 outta 3 moms with children ages 3 and younger have never taken time for themselves. This should shock me but it doesn’t. I’m in several mom groups where this is the norm, and it saddens me. There are several physical and mental benefits to taking time outs that will have profound affects on both mom and her family.

    But most importantly, we want you to do the challenge cause it’s fun! They build up excitement and give you something to look forward to in the days ahead. Who doesn’t like to have a good time?! Just because we’re working on  our physical and mental health that doesn’t mean it has to be boring. Challenges give you the opportunity to venture out of your shell and to experience new things you ordinarily wouldn’t give a second thought to if you weren’t doing the challenge.

    What is our goal for the self-care challenge?

    Our common goal is simple – we want this challenge to take the idea of personal self-care from a struggle to a way of life by becoming apart of your every day must do routine. Moms take care of everyone in their house, we want to make sure that you’re also taking care of YOU.

    We hope that you’ll join our daily challenge and we look forward to seeing your Instagram posts starting January 1st using #TimeForYOU2017.

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