Being a mom is no walk in the park. There will be occasions when you’ll feel tired, irritated, overburdened, and so many other emotions in between, and for those reasons, one should never feel guilty about putting themselves first from time to time.
It cannot be stressed enough, that if you don’t carve out time for yourself, you’ll find yourself continually fighting (and failing) to maintain your senses. Of course, your children are your first priority, but we should also remember not to neglect our personal pleasures and desires. That said, let’s talk about why moms deserve me time and how you can get it in spite of your hectic schedule.
Pros For Taking Me Time
A Chance To Recharge Your Energy
Between work deadlines, running the kids between school and their extracurriculars, to caring for other family members who depend on you, your week (and sometimes weekends) is jammed packed. This full schedule makes it highly probable that you’re too exhausted to even function by week’s end. Nevertheless, you push yourself to go above and beyond to satisfy your obligations. By taking some time for yourself, you will regain your energy In the end, this will encourage you to pick up where you left off and finish the tasks at hand with enthusiasm.
In What Seems Like a Fraction of Seconds, Your Child Will Grow Up
Every mother’s greatest fear is that their child will grow up too quickly. You will miss out on a lot of these critical memories if you are continually too exhausted to pay attention to the tiny things. Additionally, you will find it difficult to maintain your happiness once your child leaves the house. As a result, it’s crucial to have some independent activities that serve as your motivation.
Your Child(ren) Benefits From Your Me Time as Well
This is two-fold. First, you’ll be more encouraged to set aside some me time once you realize how important it is for you to allow your child to be self-reliant. It will be challenging to teach your child to do activities on their own or to entertain themselves while you take a moment for yourself. Secondly, because you’re taking time for yourself and refilling your self-care cup your child(ren) will see you more relaxed, energetic, and engaged.
It Allows You to Reconnect With Other Loved Ones
When you are so busy caring for your babies, it sometimes seems impossible to keep in touch with everyone else. But this type of disconnect can affect you mentally in the long run. If you keep aside some “me time” – you can utilize it to reconnect with old friends or simply spend time with family members you haven’t seen in a while.
Ultimately, You Progress As A Mother
You must have the stamina to cope with the frequent changes and difficult obstacles if you want to be the best mother you can be. You finally allow yourself to become a better version of yourself when you allow yourself the time to accomplish the things that bring you joy. In this way, you will have the patience necessary to support your child in every way. In order to finally become a better mom, you must prioritize me time.
Getting Me Time: How Do You Do It?
Time to Reconsider Your Sleep Routine
How are you winding down before bedtime? Are you creating an atmosphere that tells your body that it’s time to wind down for rest? Having a sleep routine not only prepares your body for sleep. It also helps your body sleep peacefully once your body is in the bed.
My personal sleep routine consists of a warm shower, a cup of hot tea or cold water (depending on the season), moisturizing my skin, and I listen to relaxing instrumental sounds. This routine takes less than an hour to complete. Create a bedtime routine that works for you, tweak it, and most importantly – stick with it.
If Necessary, Officially Include Me Time In Your Schedule
I’m here to tell you, get your me time in whenever you’re able. Schedule it if your schedule may not leave room for spontaneity. Never feel bad for scheduling a brief period of time to do nothing but what you want. To focus on your activities without distractions, leave the kids with their dad or you can ask a loved one to watch your child during that time. Seeing that free time on your calendar will give you something to look forward to.
Your Free Time Should Be Used Sensibly
It’s so easy to just lounge around without realizing how much time has passed. Nonetheless, it’s paramount that you utilize your spare time to complete tasks that make you feel satisfied. Don’t get me wrong I’m not knocking a good nap but it’s good to get out of the house for a little fresh air.
Before you leave the house, plan in advance how you want to spend your free time. Think about whether you want to concentrate on a hobby or take a long walk. Whichever you choose, make sure your free time will be spent doing things that will bring you joy.
If you really want to stay in the house (as I’m prone to do) you can use the time for yourself to work on projects that you’ve been putting off. It could be working on a family photo collage, organizing your work area, or tending the garden.
Feel Free to Request Assistance Occasionally
Because we don’t want to burden others with their duties, most moms frequently prefer to manage everything on their own. But on occasion, it’s totally acceptable to request assistance from loved ones so that you can take a short breath. Your family and friends care about your well-being they will not mind watching the little ones for a little while, trust me.
Never Forget That You Are the Best Mother for Your Kids!
You’ll have days when you feel like you’re not taking the best care of your kids. On those occasions, you should be kind to yourself and keep in mind how well you’re doing.
I shared why you deserve me time and I’ve also provided you with some strategies for finding that time, even on the busiest of days. Hopefully, you can now routinely allow yourself to relax and enjoy your life as a mother.