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  • Don’t Be Chained To Your New Year Resolutions Instead Leave Room For Magic

    The new year is here and some of us are already struggling to keep up with our New Year resolutions. Just like everyone else, you’ve started the year with a list of goals and ambitions containing a ton of things you want to rediscover or start for the first time.

    But sadly, you’ve barely found time to breathe, let alone focus on your New Year resolutions. Which means by now you’ve probably started being hard on yourself for your lack of consistency or even starting the task, and you might even start feeling like a failure. But I want you to know, it’s okay if you haven’t started or don’t complete every item on your list. Don’t be chained and feel suffocated by your resolutions instead, I want you to leave a little room for magic.

    What does leaving room for magic mean?

    It means as a human being you are allowed to take frequent breaks and enjoy your current life. Of course, New Year resolutions are important to you, but you shouldn’t miss out on small joys in life in the pursuit to fulfill your resolutions. It’s fine if goals don’t go the way you planned or you end up not doing them at all. Yes, it’s essential to have some goals that help you improve yourself and you quality of your life. But your resolutions shouldn’t chain you down completely. They shouldn’t become the reason why you are constantly stressed feeling like you’re not doing enough.

    I’ve been in this situation and until recently, I was really hard on myself about it. Imagine being hard on yourself about not doing enough during a pandemic when your only goal is trying to survive. I told myself repeatedly it was okay and that I would eventually resume those projects, and if I didn’t then they weren’t for me. But recently, I slowly but surely felt the spark again and I’ve allowed the magic to take hold and guide me back to plans.

    This is what it’s all about. Letting things happen naturally in whatever direction it takes you in. Allow yourself to focus on other things besides your resolutions and treat them like something that you know will improve your life. That’s the magic.

    Can I leave room for magic AND accomplish some goals?

    Absolutely! If you really want to try and stick to your New Year resolutions you just need to plan. Not obsessively because if you’re obsessive about your plan you’re definitely not leaving room for magic. All you need is a flexible, keyword there, step-by-step plan that you can follow to help you work towards your yearly goals. The purpose of planning, as you might already know, makes the process a lot less overwhelming, which is always a nice thing.

    The last thing that you need to remember is to keep it simple. For example, instead of setting a goal to read 100 books in a year, start by setting a goal to read a couple of minutes each day. Don’t focus on the amount of time you read but the idea you took time to do it. And if you couldn’t read one day because you went out with friends or you took an online hobby class or you just didn’t feel like it, that’s fine. It doesn’t mean you failed your goal. You’ll read the next day.

    Simple also means putting things on your resolution list that you have an interest in. Nothing on your list should feel like a burden so be sure to include things that you truly enjoy doing which will help you accomplish tasks on your list.

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  • 7 Tips To Help You Stick to Your New Year’s Resolutions

    Every year, millions of people start the year with New Year’s resolutions that are intended to make their life a little better. Many people, plan to work out more, save money, and overall just get our shit together for the new year. As usual, folks get off to a great start but after a few weeks, the desire to continue to stick to your new year’s resolutions begins to fade. Listen, I don’t keep most of my resolutions past March, so there’s that. And as a result, lots of folks (myself included) lose confidence or become depressed for not accomplishing their New Year’s resolutions but it doesn’t have to end that way.

    To prevent that from happening here are seven tips to help you stick to your New Year’s resolutions:

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    Set Realistic Goals

    Having high expectations for yourself is good, provided you don’t go overboard. This is what many people are guilty of, myself included. We tell ourselves we’re gonna do a, b, c, x, y, and z, and ultimately end up not accomplishing shit. Why? Cause we set our own selves up for failure by aiming too high for impossible goals. However, realistic goals are achievable. Instead of setting a goal to read 100 books in a year, start by setting a goal to read a couple of minutes each day. No matter how busy you are, this is something that you can do if you are passionate about improving your knowledge or reading more books in general.

    Starting small doesn’t mean you lack as a person. It’s actually a smart decision to figure out how much you can handle based on your dreams and your routine life. In fact, small accomplishments will help you find happiness and also motivate you to continue to work towards the next step of the resolutions.

    Use The Buddy System

    Having someone or a group of people to hold you accountable will encourage you to keep your resolution going all year long. No matter your resolution have someone in your corner who you can count on to cheer your milestones (big and small) and also call out if you start falling off track. Remember, this is a two-way street in which you’re pushing each other to win. Now if you come to a situation over time when your buddy isn’t being positive and happy for the strides you’ve made then it might be time to seek out someone who is. No one wants or needs a Debbie Downer or worse a hater in their corner.  

    Set Reminders

    We have a lot of things going on at once and trying to remember everything is damn near impossible. Thankfully, technology makes it easier to get daily reminders of the things we need to do. Now you won’t forget to follow through with your goals. And don’t be afraid to set follow-up reminders especially if you know you’re the type to say, eh I’ll do that in the next 10 minutes. By the way, it’s me, I’m the type to say that, and you are too – set that extra reminder.

    Keep Track of Your Progress

    It really is motivating to see all the progress you’ve made so far, even if it’s only been a few weeks. It’s going to encourage you to continue on your path until you reach your goal. Remind yourself of all your hard work by posting your progress where you can see it. On your bathroom mirror, the fridge, in your journal, or on your phone. Every time you look at it it’s going to show you where you started and how far you’ve come since you began. It’s the ultimate motivational booster.

    Focus On The Positives

    Are you going to have setbacks on your way to achieving your goals? Yeah, everyone does. No one sets a goal and then poof in a blink of an eye they’ve achieved it. Nah. That shit takes blood, sweat, and tears which includes setbacks. But don’t focus on that. Learn from it yes, but don’t let it deter you from getting to the finish line. Focus on where you are and how much hard work it took for you to get there not the 2 steps back from a month ago. Let the positive lead you to where you wanna be.

    Keep Trying Don’t Give Up

    Okay, so you set a goal, and guess what? You’re starting to slack off, things aren’t going exactly as planned, or worse you failed. That’s fine, cause that’s life. But the thing you have to remember is don’t stop trying. If you got lazy shake that shit off. Get your mind and body back in the game. If a door closes in the front go around the back to see if that door is open. Also, if you have to scrap and redo your plan in order for it to work better, do it. Do you fail? Alright. Be like Aaliyah and dust that shit off and try again. Do what you gotta do (legally) to reach your end goal.

    And most importantly…

    Don’t Doubt Yourself

    Never for a second doubt that you can’t do it, cause you can, and you WILL. I believe in YOU.

  • Five Beauty & Wellness Goals I’m Setting For The New Year

    Sometime this year I decided I was gonna start taking better care of myself. I’ve been feeling and looking really rundown (which I’ll get into why in a future post). I went from being a hot mess but still presentable to looking like I didn’t give a fuck about life. I put on more weight, my skin is dull, and my hair is thinning. I needed to make a drastic change in my life, and fast!

    Now I’m not sure of the date I started it but I slowly started implementing new routines, and I vowed these would be my New Year goals. And because all of these goals are connected they’ll be easy for me to do. And another great thing is because I started weeks before the New Year I’ve already seen some small but noticeable changes. It lets me know I’m on the right track and I need to keep up the good work.

    My Five Beauty & Wellness Goals Are:

    Taking care of my skin

    I’m nearing 40 and there’s one thing I haven’t been doing on a consistent basis, and that’s taking care of my skin. I’ll take a hot shower and be lazy about moisturizing my body or not exfoliating. Then a day or two later wonder my skin feels like sandpaper or why my face is breaking out.

    So starting back in November I began making a conscious effort of taking better care of my skin. I started misting my face with PearlEssence rose water, applying body butter, using soaps and facial serums that bring that heal and moisturize my skin.

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    Coconut Body Butter Raw African Black Soap Rose Water Spray

    More water less soda

    Speaking of taking better care of my skin, I’ve cut soda almost entirely out of my diet. I say almost as I still like the taste of ginger ale and drink it a few times a month. But for the most part, I drink water and teas (hot and cold).

    I don’t know when I cut back on my soda intake or what prompted it, but it’s a major step as I loved soda. And the results have been great. My face doesn’t break out as much, my stomach has gotten slightly smaller and my jeans aren’t as snug. Yay!

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    Modern Water Bottle Hint Water

    Growing out my nails

    I started growing them a while ago but stress and nerves got to me and I fell back into the bad habit of picking at my nails. And since I know what they look like grown out with a coat of paint, I need to curb the urge to pick at that them.

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    Diamond Strength Hardener Revlon Gel Nail Polish 12pc Manicure Kit

    Which leads to my next goal

    Going to weekly meditation and yoga classes

    I rejoined ClassPass. After seeing MDFL on their list of studios I knew I had to sign up, and that free month ClassPass offered was nice too. My plan is to get my mind, body, and spirit right by visiting various local yoga and meditation studios.

    Last year taught me I’m more into quiet reflection time and not traditional workout classes. While I know I need to get more active as I get older, I also know I need to be active doing things I don’t dread.

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    6pc Yoga Set Singing Bowl Set Meditation Guide Book

    Protective styling my hair

    This is going to be the hardest of all because I really hate twisting/braiding my hair. Natualista’s know this struggle. It’s time-consuming with your arms and hands aching soon after starting. But not doing so will continue to be a contributing factor toward my hair loss.

    I wear my afro out all the time even to bed and the results are massive tangles, dryness, and breakage. You may not be able to tell cause my hair is so fluffy but I can feel the loss in my scalp. With protective styling, I can prevent tangles and breakage by styling my hair which will allow my hair to grow and flourish.

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    Detangling Brush Scarf Turban Tie Daily Hair Moisturizer

    Going to bed at a decent time

    I have a hard time keeping a regular bedtime. My bedtime ranges between 11pm and 2am. I’ve always been a night owl so going to sleep late mentally is okay with me but I physically regret it each morning. Thankfully my nighttime routine is pretty solid so at least I’m not having any trouble getting to sleep.

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    Essential Oil Diffuser Pajama Short Set Sound Machine

    What new year goals are you setting? Share in the comments below.

  • Three Ways VisionCon Taught Me How To Achieve My New Year Goals

    With the start of the year comes the daunting task of setting goals that will craft the vision for how you want your year (and beyond) to look. You don’t have to be a business woman to set goals. I’ma stay at home mom and I get goals all the time, although I have issues with sticking with them – but that’s another story. Which is why me and my blogger buddy Allaya hopped in our 2017 Mitsubishi Mirage G4 SE and traveled from NYC to DC in the  to attend VisionCon hosted by Thrive Lounge.

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    VisionCon was a one day vision board conference that brought together women from the DMV area (DC, Maryland & Virginia), and us from New York City to network and learn tips from like minded business women to help us better ourselves professionally for the new year. There were so many things this event taught me but there were some golden gems that stuck with me.

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    VisionCon Co-Creator Skye 2nd on right

    how to navigate toward your vision

    Make A  Vision Board

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    Vision boards are a perfect ways to create a visual aids to help guide you toward your path of prosperity. See all those old mags in the corner will serve a purpose after all. Open them up and out pics and phrases that resonate with you and put them into a collage on poster board. When you’re faced with you vision board on a daily basis it will subconsciously push you to work toward the goal of your board. Learn more about vision boards here.

    Have A Strong Inner Circle

    Having people closest to you who are genuinely rooting for you and your happiness is one of the most important things you can have. Ask yourself, would the people who cheer for you when things great be there if you started struggling with tough times? If the answer is no, then it may be time to cut them loose. Having people you can count on and who will push you when you feel like quitting is one of the best things you can have when trying to achieve your goals.

    Step Into Your Truth

    Deciding to leave the corporate world was a decision that I didn’t take lightly, nor was the decision that I would take on blogging full time. There were circumstances that kept presenting itself to let me know going back to a cubicle wasn’t for me. I knew I needed to walk in my truth, and so should you. Stop worrying about society thinks about your change in career, as long as it makes you happy and you know you’re doing the right thing that’s all that matters.