Holiday Season

  • New Year’s Self-Care Checklist {FREE Printable}

    This year is FINALLY coming to a close. With everything that happened, it felt like it’s been 2020 for 10 years. 2020 was supposed to be the year we lived our best lives. It was going to be the roaring ’20s 2.0. Instead, it was the year of Murphy’s Law, and everything that could go wrong did go wrong. Despite there being some positives, the year overall was mentally, emotionally, and physically draining.

    No one wants to go into the new year feeling frazzled. That’s why this self-care checklist is crucial to getting you (and me) back on the path of remembering to do the little things. Contrary to popular belief, self-care doesn’t have to cost a bundle. At its bare bones self-care is really about taking time out to do things that keep our lives flowing smoothly. This can look like a few moments of reflective meditation, making sure all your health appointments are scheduled, taking time out to phone a loved one.

    This checklist features 15 simple everyday activities that are meant to bring peace and calm to your body and environment. The best thing about this is (other than it being free) you two designs to choose from to print, or you can save the PDF on your device and digitally check off things there. The key is ensuring this list is going to be someplace where you will see it every day.

    There is no right or wrong way to use this self-care checklist. You can simply tick off a few at your leisure and come back to the others later, you can break them up over the course of January, or you can challenge yourself to complete one new thing for 15 consecutive days. The choice is truly yours.

    On this list you’ll find the following:

    Setting goals for the new year
    Starting a new book or journal
    Scheduling work and health appointments
    Cleaning up your computer files (Shameless Maya has a great video on this)
    Meditation, working out, and eating right
    Creating morning and evening routines
    Turning off social media
    Calling a friend
    Filling your home with your favorite scent

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    Also, if you haven’t done so already download my 12-month undated wellness calendar. It’s a FREE printable featuring Black women in the wellness space.

  • 12 Holiday Comedies To Binge Watch This Holiday Season

    Raise your hand if you aren’t into those sappy Hallmark Lifetime Christmas movies. I personally can’t deal with them. They’re literally all the same. I prefer holiday comedies to help get me through the season. You already know I hate the Christmas season so, yeah I need all the laughter I can get around this time of the year.

    Since there are 12 days until Christmas here are 12 holiday comedies movies to watch every night of the week leading up to Christmas Eve.

    Bad Moms Christmas

    Bad Moms Christmas is the follow-up to Bad Moms and this time we meet their moms. Now our three under-appreciated and over-burdened moms do everything imaginable to rebel against the challenges and expectations that are placed upon mothers during the Christmas season.

    Rent
    Holidate 

    Sick and tired of being single on the holidays, two strangers agree to be each other’s platonic plus-ones all year long only thing is they break their main rule as they start to catch real feelings along the way.

    *Watch on Netflix

    Last Christmas 

    Kate is a young woman subscribed to bad decisions.  Kate, wannabe singer, works in an elf in a year-round Christmas store, and her decision making skills are quite questionable. Then she meets Tom then everything in her life changes.

    *Watch on HBO or HBO Max

    Surviving Christmas

    Simply put, Drew is a lonely and obnoxious young millionaire who pays a family to spend Christmas with him. This movie goes exactly how you envision it would.

    Rent
    Office Christmas Party

    When Carol, an uptight CEO threatens to shut down her brother’s branch, the branch manager has an idea to throw an epic Christmas party in order to land a big client and prove the branch is worthy of staying open, but of course, the party gets way out of hand and all hell breaks loose.

    Rent
    Noelle

    Santa’s daughter goes on an epic adventure in order to find her brother who vanishes after getting cold feet when he newly inherits the role of Santa following their father’s retirement.

    *Watch on Disney+

    National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation

    It’s the Griswold’s. What more is there to say.  The family is staying off the roads and remaining home for Christmas and predictably it all turns into one big disaster.

    Rent
    The Holiday

    Two women on opposite sides of the world are having guy-problems.  So they decide to swap homes in each other’s countries to get away from the men in their lives only for the unexpected to happen.

    Rent
    Trading Places

    As part of a bet, two callous millionaires swap the lives of a snobbish investor and a street con artist to see which one would prevail. The bet doesn’t go exactly how they planned.

    Rent
    Bad Santa

    A miserable conman and his partner pose as Santa and his Little Helper to rob department stores on Christmas Eve. But they run into problems when the conman befriends a troubled kid.

    Rent
    Home Alone 2: Lost in New York

    One year after Kevin was left home alone he finds himself alone in New York City and as luck would have it he runs into the escaped burglars that broke into his home the year before. All the hijinks of the first ensues but on a bigger scale as Kevin uses NYC to spoil the burglar’s plot.

    Rent
    Elf

    A man raised as an elf at the North Pole discovers that he’s actually human and he then decides to travel to New York City to look for his real father.

    Rent

     

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    These are but a few what are your favorite holiday comedies? Comment below with your favorites so that we can keep this list growing.
  • 7 Tips To Help You Stick to Your New Year’s Resolutions

    Every year, millions of people start the year with New Year’s resolutions that are intended to make their life a little better. Many people, plan to work out more, save money, and overall just get our shit together for the new year. As usual, folks get off to a great start but after a few weeks, the desire to continue to stick your New Year’s resolutions begins to fade. Listen, I didn’t even keep my ClassPass past March, so there’s that. And as a result, lots of folks (myself included) lose confidence or become depressed for not accomplishing their New Year’s resolutions but it doesn’t have to end that way.

    To prevent that from happening here are seven tips that are going to help you stick to your New Year’s resolutions:

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    Set Realistic Goals

    Having high expectations for yourself is good, provided you don’t go overboard. This is what many people are guilty of, myself included. We tell ourselves we’re gonna do a, b, c, x, y, and z, and ultimately ending up not accomplishing shit. Why? Cause we set our own selves up for failure by aiming too high for impossible goals. However, realistic goals are achievable. If we sit down and really think of realistic goals we know can reach it will make accomplishing them all the sweeter. The key is to start small and work our way up, one step at a time.

    Use The Buddy System

    Having someone or a group of people to hold you accountable will encourage you to keep your resolution going all year long. No matter your resolution have someone in your corner who you can count on to cheer your milestones and also call out your shit when you start fucking up. Remember, this is a two-way street you’re pushing each other to win. Now if you come to a situation where over time your buddy isn’t being positive and happy for the strides you’ve made then it’s time seek someone who is. No one wants or needs a Debbie downer or worse a hater in their corner.  

    Set Reminders

    We have a lot of things going on at once and trying to remember everything is damn near impossible. Thankfully, technology makes it easier to get daily reminders of the things we need to do. Now you won’t forget to follow through with your goals. And don’t be afraid to set follow up reminders especially if you know you’re the type to say, eh I’ll do that in the next 10 minutes. By the way, it’s me, I’m the type to say that, and you are too – set that extra reminder.

    Keep Track of Your Progress

    It really is motivating to see all the progress you’ve made so far, even if it’s only been a few weeks. It’s going to encourage you to continue on your path until you reach your goal. Remind yourself of all your hard work by posting your progress where you can see it. On your bathroom mirror, the fridge, in your journal, or on your phone. Every time you look at it it’s going to show you where you started and how far you’ve come since you began. It’s the ultimate motivational booster.

    Focus on the Positive

    Are you going to have setbacks on your way to achieving your goals? Yeah, everyone does. No one sets a goal and then poof in a blink of an eye they’ve achieved it. Nah. That shit takes blood, sweat, and tears which includes setbacks. But don’t focus on that. Learn from it yes, but don’t let it deter you from getting to the finish line. Focus on where you are and how much hard work it took for you to get there not the 2 steps back from a month ago. Let the positive lead you to where you wanna be.

    Keep Trying Don’t Give Up

    Okay, so you set a goal, and guess what? You’re starting to slack off, things aren’t going exactly as planned, or worse you failed. That’s fine, cause that’s life. But the thing you have to remember is don’t stop trying. If you got lazy shake that shit off and get your mind and body back in the game. If a door closes in the front go around the back to see if that door is open. Also, if you have to scrap and redo your plan in order for it to work better, do it. You fail? Alright. Be like Aaliyah and dust that shit off and try again. Do what you gotta do (legally) to reach your end goal.

    And most importantly…

    Don’t Doubt Yourself

    Never for a second doubt that you can’t do it, cause you can, and you WILL.

    No matter what your goal is, by following these simple tips will no doubt help you stick to your New Year’s resolutions. Do you have any tips of your own that have worked?
  • Bah Humbug: I Hate Christmas. Here Are 10 Reasons Why

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    I’ma just come right out the gate and say it, I hate Christmas. Did you gasp? Most people gasp at the disbelief that there’s someone who openly admits their disdain for the holiday season. I can’t tell you why or when my hatred for Christmas started, but what I do know is, the closer November and December get the more aggravated I become as I consider them the worst months of the year.

    Why do I hate Christmas so much? Well, I’m so glad you asked.

    Christmas people

    You know who these people are. They’re the ones who start the Christmas countdown in June and go on incessantly about their love of the holiday season. And for this reason, I avoid these people like the fucking plague since I’m trying to enjoy summer, fall, daylight savings, Halloween and most importantly Thanksgiving.

    And what I wanna know is, you know Santa isn’t real so what the fuck are you so excited about?

    Black Friday

    There’s nothing more hypocritical than people giving thanks for the shit they have on Thursday and before the turkey digests, they’re at the mall Thursday night/Friday morning fighting someone over a fucking big-screen television. That’s not how any of this works but commercialism says otherwise and people fall for it every year.

    And answer me honestly, do you really need all that shit you elbowing people over?

    Christmas music

    I’m trying to figure out why people get all excited over holiday music. It’s literally the same 7 fucking songs sung in different tones. They all say the same shit – Santa on a sleigh, Jack Frost, and a mistletoe. The worst are the radio stations that play non-stop holiday music. Ughhh, all I want for Christmas is your regular musical rotation.

    I’m looking at you Lite FM.

    Christmas bells

    Nothing rolls my eyes harder than hearing holiday bells. They’re annoying and it seems like there’s a person on every corner ringing one.

    Christmas shopping

    I hate Christmas shopping for people, which is why I give out gift cards. I don’t know what you like and since I don’t here’s some cash, treat yoself. After all, it makes better sense for you to get your own gift rather than me give you some shit you can’t use, which you’ll probably end up regifting anyway. And let’s not talk about those who say, “money isn’t a gift.” Um, the fuck it ain’t?! But since you feel that way, I’ll keep my money in my pocket.

    Spending obscene amounts of money

    Speaking of gifts, why do people feel the need to spend ridiculous amounts of money on presents? Don’t get me wrong, pricey gifts here and there are great, especially if its something someone really wanted. But random expensive gifts for everyone? Every year? Nah son, chill. The expectation to get that $300 fantasy gift that person will use once over the $40 practical one they’ll use every day is real. There’s no reason why folks are po broke from buying gifts. I’m shopping what I can afford, and for immediate family only.

    Crowds and tourists

    People flock to NYC during the holiday season like they’ve never seen damn Christmas decorations before. It’s just a tree with lights and garland. You’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all. Relax. The influx of tourists also makes traveling around the city unbearable. Thankfully, I live in Brooklyn so it’s not so bad in certain spots. But I won’t go into Manhattan until after everyone’s said Happy New Year and goes home.

    Spending time with people you can’t stand

    Just because it’s Christmas that shouldn’t mean that I have to look at your mug across the dinner table. I mean, if I didn’t like you Jan 1st – Dec 24th why would I want to spend time with you on Dec 25th? The answer is, I’m not. Which is why I don’t spend holiday time with my in-laws, but that’s another conversation for a different post.

    The “war” on Christmas people

    These are the people who wait on bated breath each year to see what kind of cup Starbucks puts out so they can boycott it. Why? Cause it ain’t Christmassy enough. Ma’am, it’s a damn cup. Stop it. Get some help. No one has ever or will ever stop you from saying Merry Christmas. There is NO war on Christmas.

    Romantic Christmas movies 

    All of these movies are the same, a big city girl who feels incomplete moves to small-town no man’s land meets a lumberjack (who may or may not be a secret millionaire, they fight then fall in love and live happily ever after. Give me a damn break. It’s the same plot for every movie yet people watch full of excitement like they don’t know what’s gonna happen.

    But all of that aside, there is a silverling to the holiday season, and that’s, the END of the holiday season.

     

    Oh please, don’t act like you’re not the least bit excited when the holiday season ends. I know you are cause I hear quite a few of y’all talking about happy you are for it to be over. It’s okay to admit it. Cause the truth is, it IS the best time of the year. Besides all your guests going home and your kids preoccupied with the new toys they got you also get, next year’s holiday shit for 75% off, plus those beauty gift sets and clothing for at least 50% off. It’s a gotdamn free-for-all, and I live for it!

    How many of you hate Christmas? I know I can’t be the only one out here.