Mental Health

  • Why Leaving A Dead-End Relationship Is Better For Your Health

    When you’re in an unhealthy dead-end relationship, it can often feel like a no-win situation. Staying with your partner may provide financial security or create convenience and familiarity. But, it also means sacrificing your own mental health and well-being. On the other hand, leaving may bring relief and freedom, but it could also mean financial instability or loneliness. Ultimately, the choice should come down to what is best for your own personal growth and happiness.

    What happens to us when we stay in a dead-end relationship

    When you’re stuck in a dead-end relationship, the toll it can take on your body and mind can be substantial.

    Physically:

    Staying in a dead-end relationship can take an immense physical toll on your body. The psychological and emotional stress of being stuck in a situation that you cannot get out of can manifest itself physically, leading to long-term health issues. Your body may start to show signs of fatigue, insomnia, headaches, muscle tension, increased blood pressure, or even stomach ulcers due to the high levels of distress it is experiencing. This can have serious consequences for your overall health and well-being if left unchecked. It’s important to be aware of the physical effects a negative relationship can have on you so that you are able to address them as soon as possible.

    Mentally:

    Staying in a dead-end relationship can have an incredibly detrimental effect on a person’s mental health. The longer the relationship continues, the more likely it is that feelings of loneliness and isolation will become even stronger. This is because these relationships often involve one partner feeling neglected or unappreciated, which can also lead to feelings of worthlessness and depression.

    Emotionally:

    Staying in a dead-end relationship can have a significant emotional toll on a person. One may feel isolated and helpless as if they are always on the losing end. Anger, sadness, and frustration can become all-consuming and can lead to depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues.

    Spiritually:

    It could cause one to lose faith in themselves and their relationships with others. A person’s belief system might become distorted as they come to terms with how they allowed themselves to stay in such an unhealthy relationship for so long. If faith was previously important to them, they might struggle to find meaning in life once they leave the marriage behind.

    Despite all of that, the choice to end such a relationship that you’ve outgrown can often be one of the most difficult and emotionally draining decisions you will ever make. And the Intense feelings of hurt or betrayal may linger long after the relationship has been finalized, thus making it a decision that requires great courage, self-reflection, and resilience. It also requires a significant amount of self-care.

    Why leaving a dead-end relationship is better for you

    Separating from an unfulfilling relationship allows us to prioritize our own needs instead of continually compromising them to try to keep things going. It’s an opportunity to rediscover ourselves outside of a relationship context; to rebuild our identity based on our individual goals and values rather than ones shared with another person. We can begin to acknowledge our own strengths and weaknesses without relying on someone else for support or validation. We start understanding what we need for fulfillment as individuals instead of always seeking guidance within the context of a partnership.

    Taking care of yourself during this process is essential. Maintaining healthy habits such as exercising regularly, eating nutritious meals, getting enough rest, practicing mindfulness meditation, and taking time away from people who might stress you out or remind you of hostile times in the past are all important aspects of self-care during this difficult period. It’s also important not to forget about your social life. Leaning on people who understand where you are coming from can be a great help while trying to navigate through this transition period alone. Reaching out for professional help such as therapy or counseling can be beneficial as well if needed.

    Going to therapy is quite possibly the best thing one can do when ending a dead-end relationship. Having a professional third party who can objectively give you advice on how to get through a difficult breakup. They can also help you to make sense of the emotions you are feeling. Therapists also provide a safe space where you can express yourself in confidence, allowing you to work through your feelings and gain more insight into why the relationship ended in the first place. Furthermore, going to therapy can help with setting healthy boundaries when it comes to future relationships.

    Benefits of leaving an unfulfilling relationship

    Improved Self-Confidence:

    Realizing that you can make important decisions for yourself and handle difficult, emotionally taxing challenges can increase your confidence in yourself and boost your self-esteem.

    Less Stress:

    When you’re in a bad relationship you often experience high levels of stress that can take a toll on your physical and mental health. Ending things can provide relief from the tension of an unhappy relationship, thus reducing stress levels significantly.

    More Happiness:

    Breaking up allows you to pursue relationships that will bring you more joy and satisfaction than you had previously known, leading to greater overall happiness in life.

    Opportunity for Growth:

    Freed from an unsatisfying relationship, you may find it easier to focus on your own individual needs and goals, giving you the chance to work on personal growth projects like developing hobbies or taking classes to improve skillsets – all things which benefit mental health greatly.

    Better Mental Health Outcomes:

    Through all these benefits combined newly single people are ultimately able to enjoy better overall mental states – feeling less stressed out without relationship commitments as well as happier with newfound opportunities for growth. This can lead to positive changes like improved relationships with family & friends, newfound career goals, and improved self-confidence.

    Financial Independence:

    Breaking up can also provide financial freedom. While you may have been financially dependent on your partner in the past after separating you’ll be financially independent. Meaning, you will have more control over your own finances and the ability to make decisions about how you wish to manage them.

    A Fresh Start:

    Last but certainly not least, leaving a dead-end relationship offers you a chance to start anew. Proving you the opportunity to move on with your life in ways you never thought possible. This includes everything from home relocation, new job opportunities, and traveling to different cities or countries. Whatever the case may be, separation gives you a new beginning that can make all the difference in supporting better mental health outcomes.

    In conclusion, no matter how difficult ending a relationship might be, there is no denying that it offers many benefits from which those seeking it can reap incredible amounts of emotional and physical relief. From improved self-confidence and less stress to better mental health outcomes and a fresh start, ending a dead-end relationship presents countless opportunities for personal growth and success. With these benefits in mind, it becomes clear why some relationships just don’t last – and why ending things isn’t always such a bad thing after all.

    Dead-End Relationship Black woman removing her wedding ring

  • Don’t Be Chained To Your New Year Resolutions Instead Leave Room For Magic

    The new year is here and some of us are already struggling to keep up with our New Year resolutions. Just like everyone else, you’ve started the year with a list of goals and ambitions containing a ton of things you want to rediscover or start for the first time.

    But sadly, you’ve barely found time to breathe, let alone focus on your New Year resolutions. Which means by now you’ve probably started being hard on yourself for your lack of consistency or even starting the task, and you might even start feeling like a failure. But I want you to know, it’s okay if you haven’t started or don’t complete every item on your list. Don’t be chained and feel suffocated by your resolutions instead, I want you to leave a little room for magic.

    What does leaving room for magic mean?

    It means as a human being you are allowed to take frequent breaks and enjoy your current life. Of course, New Year resolutions are important to you, but you shouldn’t miss out on small joys in life in the pursuit to fulfill your resolutions. It’s fine if goals don’t go the way you planned or you end up not doing them at all. Yes, it’s essential to have some goals that help you improve yourself and you quality of your life. But your resolutions shouldn’t chain you down completely. They shouldn’t become the reason why you are constantly stressed feeling like you’re not doing enough.

    I’ve been in this situation and until recently, I was really hard on myself about it. Imagine being hard on yourself about not doing enough during a pandemic when your only goal is trying to survive. I told myself repeatedly it was okay and that I would eventually resume those projects, and if I didn’t then they weren’t for me. But recently, I slowly but surely felt the spark again and I’ve allowed the magic to take hold and guide me back to plans.

    This is what it’s all about. Letting things happen naturally in whatever direction it takes you in. Allow yourself to focus on other things besides your resolutions and treat them like something that you know will improve your life. That’s the magic.

    Can I leave room for magic AND accomplish some goals?

    Absolutely! If you really want to try and stick to your New Year resolutions you just need to plan. Not obsessively because if you’re obsessive about your plan you’re definitely not leaving room for magic. All you need is a flexible, keyword there, step-by-step plan that you can follow to help you work towards your yearly goals. The purpose of planning, as you might already know, makes the process a lot less overwhelming, which is always a nice thing.

    The last thing that you need to remember is to keep it simple. For example, instead of setting a goal to read 100 books in a year, start by setting a goal to read a couple of minutes each day. Don’t focus on the amount of time you read but the idea you took time to do it. And if you couldn’t read one day because you went out with friends or you took an online hobby class or you just didn’t feel like it, that’s fine. It doesn’t mean you failed your goal. You’ll read the next day.

    Simple also means putting things on your resolution list that you have an interest in. Nothing on your list should feel like a burden so be sure to include things that you truly enjoy doing which will help you accomplish tasks on your list.

    New Year Resolutions

  • 40+ Hours of Soothing Christmas Music To Calm You This Holiday Season

    Traditional Christmas music, as a whole, can be jolly and bright but if you’re feeling stressed and are looking to slow down and unwind while keeping the spirit of the season these soothing Christmas music playlists will do the trick.

    Below you’ll find a curated mix of artists and instrumental sounds ranging from piano, harp, cello, and guitar. These soothing Christmas music playlists are great for meditation or ambiance. Combined these playlists have almost 1000 songs spanning almost 45 hours of relaxed listening time.

    Soothing Christmas Music

    Relaxing Christmas Music 2021 101 songs | 4 hr 30 min

    Christmas Spa Meditation 14 songs | 1 hr 8 min

    Relaxing Guitar Christmas  270 songs | 12 hr

    Cat Trumpet 10 songs | 26 min 59 sec

    Cozy Christmas Jazz – 51 songs | 2 hr 40 min

    Cello Hymns Peaceful and Relaxing – 92 songs | 2 hr 56 min

    Christmas Calm Instrumentals – 328 songs | 13 hr

    Relaxing Christmas Music – 10 songs | 29 min 13 sec

    Christmas Study – 83 songs | 3 hr 53 min

    Christmas Harp – 120 songs | 2 hr 45 min

  • Feeling Down and Out? Here Are 5 Ways To Bring Joy Into Your Life

    The past two years have not been easy on anyone. The uncertainty of the pandemic has, quite obviously, led to a sharp rise in the number of those hit by anxiety, depression, and other mental health disorders. Being cooped up at home for over a year coupled with a complete change of our daily life and routine has been stressful for all.

    My world (like yours) was turned upside down. The bouts of depression, anger, confusion, and sadness have taken a toll on me physically, mentally, and emotionally. I found myself at times unable to deal with any of it. The kids slept in for as long as they wanted, ate snacks for breakfast, and online school meant they were on zoom in their pajamas or assignments sometimes weren’t completed. I felt guilty and embarrassed but I was dealing with everything happening the best way I could. It wasn’t perfect by any means but it also prevented me from truly losing it all.

    Today things are slowly going back to “normal”, and I use that term loosely as I don’t think we’ll be living like it was 2019 any time soon, so I find myself trying to readjust to routines that I’ve forgotten. To gain back inspiration for projects I shelved. To find strength and joy in my life once more. If you feel the same I assure you the concept of regaining all is not lost. It takes time, patience, and trust within yourself to know happiness is on the horizon.

    Be Close to Family & Friends

    If there’s one thing this pandemic has taught each one of us, it is the value of closeness to some of the best relationships in our life. Being at a physical distance from them can be tough, and sometimes, overwhelming too, but thanks to the power of technology, you’re just one video call away from being able to see them. And if you’re not in the mood to Zoom a good ole fashioned phone call will do the trick. It’s all about staying in regular contact with your loved ones.

    Spend Time Doing What You Truly Like

    Now’s the perfect time to pamper yourself a bit, and do more of the things that you love doing, but didn’t get the chance to do earlier. It can be anything from painting, watching your favorite TV shows, or playing an instrument. Use this time to do a little something for yourself. Don’t fall into the trap of trying to be productive just for the sake of it. No matter how big or small the activity it’s totally worth doing something that will make you feel better and recharge you.

    Make Your Favorite Meals

    If there’s one thing that can instantly make you feel better and is something that everyone in the world enjoys, it’s a good meal. So go ahead and recreate a delicious meal in your kitchen, and enjoy it with everyone in your home. Since moving into an apartment with modern amenities, I’ve been able to savor the moment of this simple pleasure in life. I’ve never happily cooked so much. I’ve discovered new recipes that become new family favorites.

    Catch Up on Sleep

    Sleep can be the most relaxing, yet fruitful activity you can engage in during the lockdown (or at any time). Sleep in with no regrets this time, and get your body the chance to truly heal and recover from the previous days. Getting enough sleep will, in fact, also improve your mood and make you feel happier in general. Additionally, cat naps are another way to catch up on sleep. If you find yourself feeling drained and unable to focus during the day. The sleep will rejuvenate you allowing the creativity to flow in your newly refreshed mind.

    And lastly,

    Start Being Happy TODAY

    I learned a long time ago that we are in charge of our own happiness. Once I realized that then the only sensible step would be to wake up telling myself that it would be a good day and that I’m going to be happy and enjoy whatever moments are put forth. I also told myself that no one can take my joy unless I gave it away. I guarded my happiness and made sure nothing and no one around me had the power to make me miserable. From there on out I saw a difference in my life and never looked back.