Mommy Me Time

  • 30 Mommy Me Time Activities You Can Do in One Hour: Sponsored by Armitron

    This post is sponsored by Armitron. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

    If there is one thing I cannot stress enough and it’s the importance of taking time for yourself. Why is it so important? Because the time we spend alone with ourselves improves our physical and mental health. Without moments to ourselves it’s only a matter of time before we become less focused, short tempered in addition to feeling tired and overworked.

    So what exactly is keeping moms from taking  time that they so desperately need and deserve? The answer is simple. Time.  It’s the one thing moms truly don’t have enough of.  Time is something we talk about and say we’re going to take for ourselves, yet the lack of hours in a day prevents us enjoying life’s simplest pleasures. Taking time for oneself is a task that is truly easier said than done.

    I know this from personal experience as I cannot tell you how many weekends since January I said I was going to the spa. I can tell you it’s more than a dozen. How many times did I make it there? None. I made it zero times.  But that’s not surprising. Moms all over, myself included, find it increasing difficult to even carve out the smallest amount of time for themselves. Oh yes, I struggle with it just like you. And it’s quite understandable. We have jobs (in and out of the home), homes to care for,  kids to care for, PTA meetings, after school extracurricular activities, etc. Hectic work/home schedules always leaves little room for mom to have time to herself.

    So I decided to  take a stand. Two weeks ago I opened my calendar and went to the first weekend that I was free and marked a day for myself. Nothing and no one would stop me. I shared this plan with my friend Allaya. She loved the idea and asked to tag along.  Excitement was in the air!

    But the burning question looming over us was, what would we do once we were out of the house? It didn’t take long for us to blow up our chat with things to do once we flew the coop. Then we thought about it – not all moms have hours to themselves. What if they only have an hour. What could they do in 60 minutes that would make them feel good? Our list is below:

    30 THINGS YOU CAN DO WITH AN HOUR OF FREE TIME

    Mani/Pedi
    Visit an ice cream shop
    Rent a paddle boat in the park
    Go for a walk/run
    Get a facial/massage
    Go for a drive
    Walk the bridges
    Take a yoga class
    Get a wash and blowout
    Take a class relating to a hobby
    Do arts and crafts
    Take a paint/wine class
    Go thrift shopping
    Lay with pets at the pet shop
    Go to a happy hour
    Get a makeover at Sephora
    Get a wax
    Rent a Citibike
    Have sex
    Take a long hot bath
    Visit a girlfriend
    People watching at the park
    Have a picnic
    Go to the library to check out free books
    Go to the bookstore to buy books
    Play video/board games
    Go to Target alone
    Watch Netflix/HULU
    Take a nap
    Bake yourself a cake

    When the day came for our big day out we had no clue as to what we were going to do, but we had a starting point from our list. Curfews don’t exist for us but our Armitron watches would keep us from staying out too late. That’s the best thing about watches, you don’t realize you need on til you have one on. Yeah we have our phones but when you’re trying to disconnect watches are the key. Armitron has a wide variety of watches that are perfect for every type of mom time adventure. They have sporty watches for moms who are seeking active time like fitness classes or swimming, casual watches for days you want to grab a bite with friends, and diamond accented watches for very special occasions such as a date night with your partner.

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    Armitron Sporty
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    Armitron Casual

    I filmed our entire adventure so you can see what you can do on your own (or with a friend) with at least one hour of time to yourself.

    The next day despite us being out so late we felt great! And while we didn’t do all 30 it was still mission accomplished. When I woke up the next day I felt renewed and less stressed. Little annoyances around the house from the kids and the husband didn’t bug me like they did two days before. My internal rejuvenation clock was reset and I was ready to tackle on whatever the day had in store for me.

    The after feeling of doing something that is just for you is why mom time is so important. I encourage all moms to open their calendars and pick a  day just for you. Go out alone or tell a friend, spend one hour or several alone the choice is yours. But the choice to not do it is non-negotiable as your happiness and health depend on it.

    Oh, by the way if you need a sitter so that you can take the time I’m giving you $35 (the equivalent of an hour and a half) towards a sitter from Urbansitter. This is for first time sign ups only. See now you’ve really got no excuse. Have fun!

    *To shop the watches shown in this post visit Armitron online or at your nearest department store.

  • 10 Things Moms Would Do with $100 and Four Hours of Alone Time

    The question, if your husband/partner gave you $100 and four hours of uninterrupted alone time, how would you spend it? Was recently asked in a mommy group that I frequent.

    It took no time for the answers to start accumulating. There were over 50 by the time I got there, and the question had only been posted moments before. From the responses I saw taking a nap ranked #1, which is obvious, since moms hardly sleep. But there were other answers that I thought were worthy of a top 10 listing.

    So here we go…10 Things Moms Would Do With $100 And Four Hours Alone:

    “Pocket the money and take a nap.”

    “Get a massage.”

    “Get hair done with a mani/pedi.”

    “Who the fuck am I kidding, split the money 50/50 and buy the kids something.”

    “Something illegal.” (I’m still waiting to find out what the “illegal” part is lol!)

    “Call up my bff’s and say let’s go out for drinks.”

    “If I lived near a casino I would sit at the card table and hope to make more money with it.”

    “Find a new man who would give me more than $100 for four hours of freedom.” (Her husband told her to write that.)

    “Enjoy a cup of coffee alone.”
    I just really really enjoy my first sip of hot coffee in the morning. Especially on a Monday.

    “Drink wine and smoke some trees.” (You’d be surprised how many said this.)

    I know you already answered the question, was yours listed? If not, what would you do with the money and the time? My original answer was to hit up the Setai Wall Street (my favorite spa in all of NYC. I mention it often) for a day of steam, sauna and hot tea. But I saw someone say, “pocket the money and take a nap.”  It took no time for me to agree that her answer made much better sense. I’d be able to get all the sleep I needed and wake up $100 richer. But who the fuck would I be kidding, cause as soon as I wake up I’d go on Amazon and buy as many books as I could. Rich today, poor later that day. LOL!

  • MOMMY ME TIME WITH NICHOL P.

    mommy me timeName: Nichol P
    Location: New York, NY
    Occupation: Blogger at Fivelittlewords
    How many children do you have? 4 children. Ages 8, 12, 19, 25

    When was the last time you had mommy me time? How did you spend it? Thanks to my mother I have mommy me time quite a bit. My two oldest kids work so that leaves the younger ones who are now back in school so Mon- Fri is my time. I love spending time with them as much as I can especially in the summer so it’s cool if their around. I just had mommy me time the first day of school getting pampered. Hair salon and eyebrows threaded.

    When was the last time your spent time with your partner or girlfriends? How did you spend the time? Every event I go to I spend with my girlfriends so that’s at least two to three times a week. I have no partner. Single!!!

    Do you have a favorite place to go that gives you a little solitude? I love going to this cute restaurant/cafe/lounge with free wifi by my house. I can blog there and have my coffee that I buy across the street before I go inside. Lol. Less expensive.

    mommy me timeIf you could spend 24 hours alone how would you spend it? I would go shopping / pig out in a restaurant and spend the night in a hotel ordering room service, movies and jumping on the bed.

    What are your favorite hobbies? Love cooking even though it’s more like mandatory. I thought I ate a lot. Love taking pictures and home decorating.

    What song or type of music do you blast when the kids aren’t around? Hip hop, pop, house, old school.

    What is your family’s favorite fun time activity? We love board games and amusement parks if that’s an activity.

    How do you balance everything in your life so that you can have a little alone time? I get up at 4am every morning so I can have at least two hours doing what needs to be done before they wake up. Also write in my calendar on my phone to prepare for what’s ahead. Love being organized.

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    Do you have a special morning routine that gets you geared up for the day and/or night time wind down routine that helps get you relaxed after long day? That 4am wake up. Cook dinner early. Food digested and kids go to bed early.

    What advice would you give a mom who is struggling to find that slice of mommy me time? Have a backup babysitter. If one isn’t available have a backup for the backup. If my mom isn’t available which is rare I have my sister or cousin. Always don’t be afraid to ask for help.

    Thank you Nichol for sharing your interests with us! I totally understand what you mean about getting up earlier. I may not like it but it is true you can absolutely get so much more done. Another blogger was telling me about the free wifi locations. I need to find one near my house and make use of it, cause you are so right. I could get so much done there. And for the record amusement parks are absolutely an activity. I enjoy them myself but you will not see me on any roller coasters, I’ll be in the kiddie section squeezing into a seat.

    The Mommy Me Time interviews will run every other week starting Oct 7 and will run through the end of the year. If you would like to be featured please feel free to email me at Valerie@MommyRandR.com.

    Photo Credit: Nichol P.

  • MOMMY ME TIME WITH TIFFANI G.

    coverName – Tiffani G.

    Location – Brooklyn, NY

    Occupation – Payroll Administrator by day, Mommy Event Director at MyMommyvents by night

    How many children do you have? 2 children, ages 3 and 22 months.

    What are your favorite hobbies? My favorite hobbies are reading, bargain hunting, playing with my boys, and planning events.

    When was the last time you had mommy me time and/or couple time and how did you spend it? I’m having mommy time right now–once a month I get a mani/pedi/massage/eyebrow wax. The last time we had couples time was during the boys’ nap yesterday. We were able to get through about an hour and half of an insane Lifetime movie.

    How do you balance everything in your life so that you can have a little alone time? I’m learning that there’s no real “balance” to motherhood. I’m constantly juggling. I’ve found that physically scheduling an appointment for mommy time on my calendar makes it a little easier.

    If you could spend 24 hours alone how would you spend it? I miss my family when I’m only at work, I honestly don’t think I could spend 24 hours alone. I’d probably check into a hotel, get a nice massage and a plate of food that I could eat without anyone asking for some, and calling my husband to join me for a hot night of incredible, stress relieving…sleep.

    What is your family’s favorite fun time activity? Our family likes to dance. My husband and I met dancing to soca music, so it’s only natural that we would dance to soca as a family. We put on some Bunji Garlin (the boys’ favorite) and get “ready for de road” together in the living room, taking turns as we cheer each other on. A new activity we’re trying together is yoga–you should see their downward dog!

    cover2What advice would you give a mom who is struggling to find that slice of mommy me time? For the mom who’s struggling to find alone time, I would suggest new ways of finding it. Alone time doesn’t have to be outside the house. A nice bath during nap time, a pedicure you do yourself, dancing while you do the dishes. Anything can be an opportunity to relax and unwind a little.

    Thank you Tiffani for sharing your interests with us! I can totally relate to your idea of down time. Sleeping over at a hotel is a great way to get the necessary time to yourself yet be close enough to your family. LOL! That stress relieving sleep is the norm for many parents. It’s the ultimate parental version of expectation v. reality. I love dancing!!! Maybe you can help me find some riddum at one of your future soca classes.

    This is the part where I say, if you would like to be featured please contact me. But, due to an overwhelming response to this series I have closed the submissions for the time being. I will be accepting submissions starting in the spring for the new Mommy Me Time summer series. More information will be available on May 20!