motherhood

  • The ‘Whole Human Mama’ Planner’ Subscription Is Just What Mom Needs

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    The Whole Human Mama Planner is perfect for moms no matter the occasion. Created by Graeme Seabrook, the Whole Human Mama Planner is a subscription to help moms stay connected. The purpose of this planner is to help you thrive not only as a mom but as a person.

    Because it’s a planner subscription you’ll receive a new planner every four months. This means you’ll be working with a thinner planner that spans 3 months. But just because it’s thin that doesn’t mean it’s not giving moms what we need to get through the month.

    Here’s what you can expect with the Whole Human Mama Planner:

    A monthly priorities page that features a section for important dates, goals, project lists, and self-care.

    A full monthly and weekly spread with a space section and enough area to add notes.

    Weekly to-do list page for yourself, the family, and for your home.

    A full-page spread to express your thoughts and feelings.

    Weekly meal planner and habit tracker.

    A project planner to jot down any new work projects or home DIYs that may come to mind.

    A weekly wrap-up that gives you sections to celebrate your wins, things you’re letting go of, and to write a letter to yourself about your week.

    Additionally, you’ll receive a small lined notebook that can be used for diary entries, notes, or whatever your heart desires plus a small pin, bookmark, stickers, digital goodies, and lastly one free month membership to The Mom Center. The Mom Center is a community that helps, supports, and uplifts women as we guide ourselves through the journey of motherhood.

    I like this planner because it’s undated so if you miss a month you can easily go back the next month without a gap, it easily fits in your purse, and it’s motivational. The start of each month gives you a new quote to inspire you.

    The cost of the subscription is $100.00. You can order a subscription for yourself, your mom, or a mom friend here.

  • All I Want for Mother’s Day Is Some Peace and Quiet

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    I’m gonna be frank with you, all I want for Mother’s Day some good old-fashioned peace and quiet. That’s it. I don’t want to do anything that involves me putting on a bra because I’ll tell you right now I’m not in the mood for it. I know Mother’s Day is a few days away but I can assure you I’m already dreading the thought.

    And I know I’m not alone in this. Yeah, sure there are moms who want to go out and celebrate the day with their families, and that’s great – but I’m not one of them. My ideal Mother’s Day would be to spent bed with the covers to my neck, with hot tea, a roasted chicken sandwich, and the remote. I might binge-watch a new show (which there are several on my list) or I might watch Downton Abbey for the umpteenth time. Or maybe if I do decide to go out I want to go out alone. I want to roam the bookstore or maybe walk the bridge if the weather is nice enough. The point is, I just want to be left alone in solitude.

    Why do I want to be alone?

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    This past year has been a mess. Like families all over the world, we spent an entire year indoors. We did everything inside. Not getting a break from one another. It’s made us stir crazy, especially me.  Sure there are moments when the kids would do into their room but I still have to yell downstairs to them someone “knock it off”. Or go nuts listening to whatever AmongUs music Sierra has on loop. I haven’t quite figured out if she’s trying to annoy us all or if she just likes it – I think it’s both. This Mother’s Day, I don’t wanna deal with any of it for at least most of the day. I want to hear the low hum of the fridge, the cat’s claws tapping the floor as she walks around, my own thoughts – in other words, silence.

    If Jeff Sr. wants to do something for me then he should the children out. I’m always the one doing things with them while he works, and I enjoy those moments. But for one once, he should plan something just for them. I honestly cannot remember the last time the three of them did something without me. If I had to guess I would say it was before the pandemic. I had something to do and he took them to the park and to grab a bite. He needs to do that that not only more often but starting this weekend. Now don’t get me wrong, Jeff is no slouch. He was at one point working two full-time jobs. All he did was work and sleep in order to provide for us. So he had his reasons. But, as a stay-at-home mother for the past year, I’ve had no time off as he has continued to work. So to have the entire house to myself for a few hours would be paradise.

    Doing what I want to do on Mother’s Day

    If Mother’s Day is supposed to be a day we celebrate moms and a day when we should actually rest, then why should be I dragged up and down the street? Please by all means leave me at home. Now I’m sure there are some who think I’m crazy for not taking advantage of my husband’s open wallet, but the truth of the matter is, I can do that any day of the week. So if this one day a year is supposed to be for me then I want to spend it in a way that I want to. Save the overpriced meal and flowers for another day. Give mommy something she’s been dreaming about all year – quiet time.

  • 7 Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You a Happier Mom

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    Motherhood is hard as fuck. Like, seriously hard. There are days we love it, and then there the days we wanna run away. Does that equate to us not loving our children? Nah. We love them to the moon and back, but there are days when our kids’ antics causes us to want to wanna scream bloody murder.

    You know those days, when the hitting, lack of sharing, yelling, and so on that just won’t stop. I know it’s just not my house. It had better not be just my house. But seriously, it’s in these moments when our happiness tank starts to deplete, along with our patience, we think about those kid-free days and how we wish we could go back to that for five minutes. Oh, let me just point out that it’s perfectly okay to admit that you think this way sometimes. We’re human. There’s nothing wrong with reminiscing about the life and freedoms you once had. It’s completely normal.

    Now the question is when we feel less than our usual selves what do we need to do to make sure our happiness meter is set somewhere between “kids are finally sleeping” and “it’s wine time!”?

    Stop trying to be the “perfect” mom

    Let me state this out the gate – there is no such thing as a perfect mom. I don’t care what the media, celebrities or that sanctimonious mom at your kids PTA tries to sell you, don’t buy it. It’s not true. There is no rulebook for parenting. We’re all out here trying to do the best we can for our families with what we have. Which is why I hate the term “perfect” mom because it’s wielded in such a way to make moms feel inadequate and self-conscious. No one should ever feel that way about themselves. That’s why it’s important to remind ourselves as often as possible that we’re fine just the way we are.

    Stop comparing yourself to other moms

    A lot of women will look at other moms who they think have it together, and wish they could be like them. When the truth of the matter is, they don’t have their shit together either. They’re struggling just like the rest of us, but they don’t let you know that. It’s all about perception. But know, that’s all it is. This all reverts back to the need some moms feel like they have to be perfect to be considered a good parent to those on the outside looking in. Just enjoy being you without the pressures of trying to be someone else.

    Ask for help

    If you need your partner to get the kids ready for bath time bed so that you can watch the last few moments of your favorite show, finish a blog post or something that’s for you, ask them. They won’t know you need it unless you do so. And please, don’t judge their methods over yours. Let your partner do it their way. And if you have family and friends in your corner, ask them as well. Now should you have no one to turn to for help, look into a hiring a part-time sitter. Someone whom your kids can hang with every now and then so you can take a breath. No mom should ever feel like she’s alone.

    Slow down

    Ask yourself, is it really necessary for you to have a full schedule for yourself and your family? Do you even like these activities? Is anyone fully committed to them? If you answered yes to one of those last two questions, or both, then why are you doing them? Cut back on things that you have little interest in. This way you can make the time for things you really like and always wanted to do, or maybe to do nothing at all. Running at 100mph every day is no good for anyone, and the effects of it will take a toll on your physical and mental health. Pace yourself before your wear yourself so thin your body slows down for you.

    Get as much rest as you can

    Getting enough sleep is crucial for anyone to survive. You can’t function at the level you need to complete a 15+ hour day when you’re running on 3 or 4 hours of sleep from the night before or worse from several nights in a row. Staying up well after the kids have gone to sleep is tempting because the house is quiet but it can backfire on you if you do it constantly. So how do you get more sleep? Give yourself two hours after the kids have gone to bed then call it a night. And you can also alternate who sleeps in on the weekend. Saturday is my day to sleep in and Sunday belongs to the man. And here’s another tip, if you’re kids are still in the napping stage, when they sleep you should be sleeping too. Why are you up moving around? Get on the couch and chill out. If your kids are out of that stage, like mine, then make them go in their room for “chill out” time. This is the time where everyone retreats to their room for one hour. Sometimes kids will nap (yes!) other times they won’t (boo!) but hey, at least you were able to rest yourself for a bit of time.

    Let it go

    This will be hard for some, but stop getting worked up over shit that’s out of your control. You can’t do anything about it so instead of walking around aggravated about it be like Elsa and let it go. Take a breath and know that things will be okay and continue on with your day. If things aren’t going to be okay, phone a friend to talk about it. Sometimes just talking to a friend and hearing their reassurances are enough to get us through those dark times.

    Have all of the sex

    Everyone knows the longer you go without the sex the angrier you become. So do tha do as often as you can. And if you don’t have anyone to have sex with, have sex with yourself. Now if you and your partner are going through a stale period in your bedroom here are some tips to help you out.

    Do you have any tips that have helped you become a happier mom? Share in the comments below.
  • 4 Reasons Why Every Mom Needs to Take Mommy Me Time

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    I cannot tell you how many forums I’ve been in where moms ask if they should take time for themselves. If should is the question, then the answer would undoubtedly be, HELL YES!

    I don’t know where the idea came from that me time should be an agonizing guilt-ridden decision but I wish it would go back into the dark hole from where it came. Let me say it for those in the back who may have missed it, there is nothing wrong with taking GUILT FREE time for yourself.

    Yes, we’re parents, but that doesn’t mean that we have to spend every waking second with our kids attached to our hips or tugging on our skirts. Where in the rulebook (if there were to be one) does it say that? It doesn’t. Escaping the kids for a few hours or a weekend to be alone or with your partner should never be taboo or done with a heavy heart and mind. Time alone does wonders for you and those around you. See how with these four reasons:

    It makes you feel good

    Ask yourself, what makes me feel good? Personally, I feel good when I’m able to read a few chapters of a book I just purchased, when I can have an entire mug of tea to myself or when I can run errands alone. I make it a priority to do a little something each day that’s just for me even if it’s just for a few moments. And when I know I can schedule my me time around nap time with my youngest it gives me something to look forward to. Every mom needs a moment in her day that will make her feel good.

    It’ll make your family happy

    And while we’re on the subject of what makes you feel good, let’s talk about when that good feeling spills over to your family. You see, your mood affects your family’s mood as well. If you find yourself feeling frustrated and snappy at the simplest thing like a sock on the floor or a plate left on the table then the kids and your partner won’t know how to receive you. They will be worried about what will set mommy off, creating mounting tension. It’s at this moment where you need to take a step back in order to get yourself back in a better frame of mind. Your family will thank you for it.

    It will keep you healthy

    When you don’t make time for you your body will revolt. Don’t believe me? Remember that unexplained headache, the strange body aches or that time where you nodded off sitting straight up. Yeah, those are all telltale signs that you need to take better care of yourself. You have to give your body the proper rest and nutrients it needs to sustain itself. Eating toddler leftovers is not a complete meal and only getting only four hours of sleep is not considered a good night’s rest. If you can make sure that everyone else is taking care of their bodies then you need to follow your own advice and do the same for your own.

    You earned it

    Nothing more needs to be said here. You did earn it and no one deserves it more than YOU. Enjoy it.

    Taking mommy me time is important. Make sure you’re taking the necessary time for you.