New Years Resolutions

  • 7 Tips To Help You Stick to Your New Year’s Resolutions

    Every year, millions of people start the year with New Year’s resolutions that are intended to make their life a little better. Many people, plan to work out more, save money, and overall just get our shit together for the new year. As usual, folks get off to a great start but after a few weeks, the desire to continue to stick your New Year’s resolutions begins to fade. Listen, I didn’t even keep my ClassPass past March, so there’s that. And as a result, lots of folks (myself included) lose confidence or become depressed for not accomplishing their New Year’s resolutions but it doesn’t have to end that way.

    To prevent that from happening here are seven tips that are going to help you stick to your New Year’s resolutions:

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    Set Realistic Goals

    Having high expectations for yourself is good, provided you don’t go overboard. This is what many people are guilty of, myself included. We tell ourselves we’re gonna do a, b, c, x, y, and z, and ultimately ending up not accomplishing shit. Why? Cause we set our own selves up for failure by aiming too high for impossible goals. However, realistic goals are achievable. If we sit down and really think of realistic goals we know can reach it will make accomplishing them all the sweeter. The key is to start small and work our way up, one step at a time.

    Use The Buddy System

    Having someone or a group of people to hold you accountable will encourage you to keep your resolution going all year long. No matter your resolution have someone in your corner who you can count on to cheer your milestones and also call out your shit when you start fucking up. Remember, this is a two-way street you’re pushing each other to win. Now if you come to a situation where over time your buddy isn’t being positive and happy for the strides you’ve made then it’s time seek someone who is. No one wants or needs a Debbie downer or worse a hater in their corner.  

    Set Reminders

    We have a lot of things going on at once and trying to remember everything is damn near impossible. Thankfully, technology makes it easier to get daily reminders of the things we need to do. Now you won’t forget to follow through with your goals. And don’t be afraid to set follow up reminders especially if you know you’re the type to say, eh I’ll do that in the next 10 minutes. By the way, it’s me, I’m the type to say that, and you are too – set that extra reminder.

    Keep Track of Your Progress

    It really is motivating to see all the progress you’ve made so far, even if it’s only been a few weeks. It’s going to encourage you to continue on your path until you reach your goal. Remind yourself of all your hard work by posting your progress where you can see it. On your bathroom mirror, the fridge, in your journal, or on your phone. Every time you look at it it’s going to show you where you started and how far you’ve come since you began. It’s the ultimate motivational booster.

    Focus on the Positive

    Are you going to have setbacks on your way to achieving your goals? Yeah, everyone does. No one sets a goal and then poof in a blink of an eye they’ve achieved it. Nah. That shit takes blood, sweat, and tears which includes setbacks. But don’t focus on that. Learn from it yes, but don’t let it deter you from getting to the finish line. Focus on where you are and how much hard work it took for you to get there not the 2 steps back from a month ago. Let the positive lead you to where you wanna be.

    Keep Trying Don’t Give Up

    Okay, so you set a goal, and guess what? You’re starting to slack off, things aren’t going exactly as planned, or worse you failed. That’s fine, cause that’s life. But the thing you have to remember is don’t stop trying. If you got lazy shake that shit off and get your mind and body back in the game. If a door closes in the front go around the back to see if that door is open. Also, if you have to scrap and redo your plan in order for it to work better, do it. You fail? Alright. Be like Aaliyah and dust that shit off and try again. Do what you gotta do (legally) to reach your end goal.

    And most importantly…

    Don’t Doubt Yourself

    Never for a second doubt that you can’t do it, cause you can, and you WILL.

    No matter what your goal is, by following these simple tips will no doubt help you stick to your New Year’s resolutions. Do you have any tips of your own that have worked?
  • Five Beauty & Wellness Goals I’m Setting For The New Year

    Sometime this year I decided I was gonna start taking better care of myself. I’ve been feeling and looking really rundown (which I’ll get into why in a future post). I went from being a hot mess but still presentable to looking like I didn’t give a fuck about life. I put on more weight, my skin is dull, and my hair is thinning. I needed to make a drastic change in my life, and fast!

    Now I’m not sure of the date I started it but I slowly started implementing new routines, and I vowed these would be my New Year goals. And because all of these goals are connected they’ll be easy for me to do. And another great thing is because I started weeks before the New Year I’ve already seen some small but noticeable changes. It lets me know I’m on the right track and I need to keep up the good work.

    My Five Beauty & Wellness Goals Are:

    Taking care of my skin

    I’m nearing 40 and there’s one thing I haven’t been doing on a consistent basis, and that’s taking care of my skin. I’ll take a hot shower and be lazy about moisturizing my body or not exfoliating. Then a day or two later wonder my skin feels like sandpaper or why my face is breaking out.

    So starting back in November I began making a conscious effort of taking better care of my skin. I started misting my face with PearlEssence rose water, applying body butter, using soaps and facial serums that bring that heal and moisturize my skin.

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    More water less soda

    Speaking of taking better care of my skin, I’ve cut soda almost entirely out of my diet. I say almost as I still like the taste of ginger ale and drink it a few times a month. But for the most part, I drink water and teas (hot and cold).

    I don’t know when I cut back on my soda intake or what prompted it, but it’s a major step as I loved soda. And the results have been great. My face doesn’t break out as much, my stomach has gotten slightly smaller and my jeans aren’t as snug. Yay!

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    Growing out my nails

    I started growing them a while ago but stress and nerves got to me and I fell back into the bad habit of picking at my nails. And since I know what they look like grown out with a coat of paint, I need to curb the urge to pick at that them.

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    Which leads to my next goal

    Going to weekly meditation and yoga classes

    I rejoined ClassPass. After seeing MDFL on their list of studios I knew I had to sign up, and that free month ClassPass offered was nice too. My plan is to get my mind, body, and spirit right by visiting various local yoga and meditation studios.

    Last year taught me I’m more into quiet reflection time and not traditional workout classes. While I know I need to get more active as I get older, I also know I need to be active doing things I don’t dread.

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    Protective styling my hair

    This is going to be the hardest of all because I really hate twisting/braiding my hair. Natualista’s know this struggle. It’s time-consuming with your arms and hands aching soon after starting. But not doing so will continue to be a contributing factor toward my hair loss.

    I wear my afro out all the time even to bed and the results are massive tangles, dryness, and breakage. You may not be able to tell cause my hair is so fluffy but I can feel the loss in my scalp. With protective styling, I can prevent tangles and breakage by styling my hair which will allow my hair to grow and flourish.

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    Going to bed at a decent time

    I have a hard time keeping a regular bedtime. My bedtime ranges between 11pm and 2am. I’ve always been a night owl so going to sleep late mentally is okay with me but I physically regret it each morning. Thankfully my nighttime routine is pretty solid so at least I’m not having any trouble getting to sleep.

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    What new year goals are you setting? Share in the comments below.