self-care

  • 10 Things Moms Would Do with $100 and Four Hours of Alone Time

    The question, if your husband/partner gave you $100 and four hours of uninterrupted alone time, how would you spend it? Was recently asked in a mommy group that I frequent.

    It took no time for the answers to start accumulating. There were over 50 by the time I got there, and the question had only been posted moments before. From the responses I saw taking a nap ranked #1, which is obvious, since moms hardly sleep. But there were other answers that I thought were worthy of a top 10 listing.

    So here we go…10 Things Moms Would Do With $100 And Four Hours Alone:

    “Pocket the money and take a nap.”

    “Get a massage.”

    “Get hair done with a mani/pedi.”

    “Who the fuck am I kidding, split the money 50/50 and buy the kids something.”

    “Something illegal.” (I’m still waiting to find out what the “illegal” part is lol!)

    “Call up my bff’s and say let’s go out for drinks.”

    “If I lived near a casino I would sit at the card table and hope to make more money with it.”

    “Find a new man who would give me more than $100 for four hours of freedom.” (Her husband told her to write that.)

    “Enjoy a cup of coffee alone.”
    I just really really enjoy my first sip of hot coffee in the morning. Especially on a Monday.

    “Drink wine and smoke some trees.” (You’d be surprised how many said this.)

    I know you already answered the question, was yours listed? If not, what would you do with the money and the time? My original answer was to hit up the Setai Wall Street (my favorite spa in all of NYC. I mention it often) for a day of steam, sauna and hot tea. But I saw someone say, “pocket the money and take a nap.”  It took no time for me to agree that her answer made much better sense. I’d be able to get all the sleep I needed and wake up $100 richer. But who the fuck would I be kidding, cause as soon as I wake up I’d go on Amazon and buy as many books as I could. Rich today, poor later that day. LOL!

  • 4 Reasons Why Every Mom Needs to Take Mommy Me Time

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    I cannot tell you how many forums I’ve been in where moms ask if they should take time for themselves. If should is the question, then the answer would undoubtedly be, HELL YES!

    I don’t know where the idea came from that me time should be an agonizing guilt-ridden decision but I wish it would go back into the dark hole from where it came. Let me say it for those in the back who may have missed it, there is nothing wrong with taking GUILT FREE time for yourself.

    Yes, we’re parents, but that doesn’t mean that we have to spend every waking second with our kids attached to our hips or tugging on our skirts. Where in the rulebook (if there were to be one) does it say that? It doesn’t. Escaping the kids for a few hours or a weekend to be alone or with your partner should never be taboo or done with a heavy heart and mind. Time alone does wonders for you and those around you. See how with these four reasons:

    It makes you feel good

    Ask yourself, what makes me feel good? Personally, I feel good when I’m able to read a few chapters of a book I just purchased, when I can have an entire mug of tea to myself or when I can run errands alone. I make it a priority to do a little something each day that’s just for me even if it’s just for a few moments. And when I know I can schedule my me time around nap time with my youngest it gives me something to look forward to. Every mom needs a moment in her day that will make her feel good.

    It’ll make your family happy

    And while we’re on the subject of what makes you feel good, let’s talk about when that good feeling spills over to your family. You see, your mood affects your family’s mood as well. If you find yourself feeling frustrated and snappy at the simplest thing like a sock on the floor or a plate left on the table then the kids and your partner won’t know how to receive you. They will be worried about what will set mommy off, creating mounting tension. It’s at this moment where you need to take a step back in order to get yourself back in a better frame of mind. Your family will thank you for it.

    It will keep you healthy

    When you don’t make time for you your body will revolt. Don’t believe me? Remember that unexplained headache, the strange body aches or that time where you nodded off sitting straight up. Yeah, those are all telltale signs that you need to take better care of yourself. You have to give your body the proper rest and nutrients it needs to sustain itself. Eating toddler leftovers is not a complete meal and only getting only four hours of sleep is not considered a good night’s rest. If you can make sure that everyone else is taking care of their bodies then you need to follow your own advice and do the same for your own.

    You earned it

    Nothing more needs to be said here. You did earn it and no one deserves it more than YOU. Enjoy it.

    Taking mommy me time is important. Make sure you’re taking the necessary time for you.